Naughty Bits Oh My G-Spot

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The Naughty Bits collection from CalExotics is really adorable. Every piece in the collection is fun and affordable. There are a few pieces that don’t live up to the ‘body safe’ standard that you’re used to from this blog, but the Oh My G-Spot is not one of those pieces. It’s so pretty and this is a toy that will be an excellent addition to your collection, and on display on your nightstand (if you can find the batteries to use it!)

The Oh My G-Spot is made of smooth ABS plastic with a silicone power button. There is also a silicone ring around the screw cap that makes it 100% waterproof. It takes 2 C batteries and lasts quite a long time. There are 10 vibration patterns and, what’s really cool, is it has a memory, so if you find a pattern that you LOVE, it will always remember where you left off, so you don’t have to go hunting again.

I actually really love this toy. It’s big, girthy, and the vibrations are the absolute right amount of rumbly. The motor is placed right at the tip so the vibrations get where you need them to go. Also, a lovely little bonus is, because of the toys size and material, the vibrations don’t really reach the base where you hold on, so your hand won’t go numb.

Now to the fun part, the bitching. As I mentioned before, the Oh My G-Spot takes 2 C batteries. What the hell uses C batteries anymore? I went to 2 different Targets and neither of them carried these batteries. I’m lucky that my rechargeable battery set had C adapters, otherwise I literally would not have been able to test this it. That being said, it does actually say on the instructions to not use rechargeable batteries, for some reason, but I only used them the once, and everything was fine.

Besides the battery issue, the Oh My G-Spot is a really well made, cute toy. The vibrations are amazing for a $33 toy and the fact that it’s waterproof as well as having an awesome selection of rumbly patterns makes this a very excellent buy. For anyone looking for a beautiful, cheap, body safe g spot toy, this one is for you!


If you’d still like to try it, you can get it HERE for 10% off using the code PINKSPACELIME


I was sent the Oh My G-Spot for free by Betty’s Toy Box in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!

The Butters Hygienics Co. Lube Trio

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After reviewing the Soothing Body Lotion and the PMS Rescue, I gladly accepted the offer to review the Butters Lube Sampler. I have heard so many amazing things about all of the lubes from The Butters, so to finally get the chance to test them all is wonderful. I am a true Butters convert!

If you’re more of a visual person, I have started making review videos on my Instagram! The video review for this trio is up now!

Palm Grease

Palm grease, AKA the lube for ‘dick stroking, fist fucking, and other high viscosity needs’. This lube is so multi functional. It’s the thickest Butters lube that you can get and it lasts a good long while. You can use this for all your sexual needs as well as bodily needs. It’s great for your skin because of the natural fatty acids and smooths even the roughest hands.

Cocoa Butter Lube

If you’ve tried any cocoa butter product you know how amazing it smells, and this is no different. The Cocoa Butter Lube is fantastic, although undoubtedly my least favorite of the bunch. It takes a bit of heat to get this lube moving but once it does, it works like a charm. This is a great option for those of you who have various allergies and have a hard time finding a lube.

Aloe and Shea Lube

The Aloe and Shea Butter Lube is my favorite, for a good reason, it’s the original! This was the first lube that The Butters created. They’ve reformulated it to make it that much more incredible. It’s definitely the lightest and loosest of the batch, which doesn’t make it easy for hardcore sex usage, but it feels the best on my skin. It’s so silky and luxurious!


Get the Palm Grease HERE

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Get the Aloe and Shea Lube HERE


I was sent The Butters Lube Sampler Pack for free from The Butters Hygienics in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!

Zumio S

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The Zumio S is like the younger sibling of the Zumio E and X. It’s much less intense, much more rumbly, and the larger silicone tip makes this lady’s clit VERY happy. This review is literally going to be short and sweet. I have absolutely no negatives about it.

The Zumio S is very similar to the E and the X. The travel cap and the base are made of ABS plastic, the mid section is made of a body safe silicone, and this Zumio has a short, flexible silicone stem. This version has the circular rotation tip movements, like the X. It is fully submersible due to the fact that it has a wireless charger. It takes approximately 2 hours to full charge and it lasts for ages. Use that time to test the 8 intensity patterns to see what works for you.

I love this toy so so much. Like I mentioned at the beginning, I have absolutely no negatives to say about the S. It’s quiet, it has a thick stem, the battery life is wonderful, and gets me off. That last detail is the part I love the most. Anything that gets me off with an orgasm that I actually enjoy is a winner in my book.

I would highly recommend the Zumio S to anyone who is interested in pinpoint stimulation toys and who are interested in Zumio. It’s a great starter toy from them because it’s not too intense and give you a great idea of what kinds of stimulation you love. The Zumio S is definitely my favorite Zumio product (so far…).


You can get the Zumio S right HERE 


I was sent the Zumio S for free from Zumio in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!

Zumio E

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When I received the Zumio E I was very hesitant. After reviewing the Zumio X, I thought, maybe the Zumio products just aren’t for me. I mean, I’ve tried and loved so many other pinpoint stimulation toys, maybe I just didn’t need to be so fancy with it. Well, I was proven wrong. I do need to be a fancy bitch.

The Zumio E is basically the same as the original Zumio in build. The travel cap and the base are made of ABS plastic, the mid section is made of a body safe silicone, and this Zumio has a sturdy metal stem. The elliptical rotation has been added to this version and it’s amazing in this design. It is fully submersible due to the fact that it has a wireless charger. It takes approximately 2 hours to full charge but lasts freaking forever! Use that time to test the 8 intensity patterns to see what works for you.

The Zumio E stem is fantastic! Unlike the previous models, it is made of a solid metal, so the sensation is incredible. The shape has been improved as well. Now the stem has more of a curve AND the way that the end comes to a ‘paddle’ is actually the best thing I have experienced. Plus the shape of the stem give your nipples a really fun ride. You can move it around from the flat side to the slim edge to give wildly different sensations.

I have mentioned before that I have a really hard time having an orgasm, but not anymore…mostly. I have discovered that I really enjoy having my clit stroked from the very base up to the tip. With the paddle shape of the E, I am able to do that with EASE. Also, because it’s flat and not rounded, it doesn’t do as much slipping around, so I can get those really intense, concentrated strokes going.

There is really not much negative to say about the E. It’s a tad loud, but not nearly as loud as the X. Besides that, it’s almost the perfect toy. It’s sleek, submersible, ergonomic (light, easy buttons, etc), and it gives even the most complicated person (me), an incredible orgasm.

I would absolutely recommend the Zumio E to anyone who enjoys an incredibly intense and quick orgasm. It’s seriously one of the best toys I have ever experienced. While the price is a little steep, I ASSURE you it is worth it. You will get many a pleasure from this wonderful toy.


You can get the Zumio E right HERE 


I was sent the Zumio E for free from Zumio in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!

Romp Beat

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I am in love with the design of the Romp line of toys. They’re all bright and cheery as well as pretty unique builds. It’s like the ‘cool and hip’ brand of sex toys. For the price and quality, you’re sure to want to try the whole, wonderful line! PLUS every toy comes with an adorable set of stickers and a really cool mini poster!

The Romp Beat is made of a silky smooth, body safe silicone, with an ABS plastic base. The whole toy is 6 inches, which is the perfect size (in my opinion!). It is rechargeable via pronged usb charger. Charge time is about 90 minutes with a usable time of between 90-120 minutes on the lowest setting. There are 6 vibration modes and 4 vibration patterns which you switch through by the single power button on the bottom. The toy is also completely waterproof, so you can use it during water fun!

The overall design of the Beat is so fun and unique. I absolutely love the bright colors and the really creative pattern they used on the main body design. The whole toy is super simple to use. There’s one button and one recharge plug, that’s it. The size is perfect and it’s actually quite quiet. Being discreet with this toy will not be an issue.

Unfortunately there isn’t much to say about it. It doesn’t really stand out vibration wise. While the colors are bright and the design is so fun, the mechanics are just average. Quality isn’t an issue due to the fact that it’s created by WowTech who makes Womanizer and WeVibe, but the Beat is just…ok. My major issue with it overall is that the vibrations travel through the whole toy, making the base difficult to hold onto for extended periods of time.

While I had some issues with the Beat, I would still recommend this toy to anyone. It’s only $25 and for that price you’ll be hard pressed to find a better quality toy. It’s a great toy for those just starting out or those of you who need a cheap, on the go toy.


If you’d still like to try it, you can get it HERE for 10% off using the code PINKSPACELIME


I was sent the Romp Beat for free by Betty’s Toy Box in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!

Alien Breeder by Hankey’s Toys

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I’ve been wanting to expand my ‘pretty’ dildo collection and when Hankey’s Toys agreed to collaborate with me on a review, I was THRILLED. Not only did they give me their Alien Breeder dildo, but they also made it with custom colors! I am officially obsessed with this company. Hankey’s Toy’s is definitely going to be my go to for all my future anal training needs.

This highly textured xeno themed toy is made of a very soft silicone. If you don’t like soft toys, however, you can choose their medium firm option. I got the medium size, which is a total of 10.62 inches with an insertable length of 9.37 inches and a circumference of 8.75 (at the widest spot). This is a beastly toy. They actually warned me when choosing a toy that their toys are bigger than you’d expect. That’s quite the understatement.

I tried this toy for the first time on my OnlyFans and let me tell you, the look on my face when I put it inside me was wonderful. In the end I was only able to push it in to the beginning of the hump/knot in the middle, but what I could fit was…lovely. There were many a gasp and ‘oh, fucks!’.

One of the sides is completely smooth (similar to the Xenomorph head) and the other side is extremely textured. The attention to detail is incredible. All the little ‘vertebrae’ along the front and the sides created a wonderful sensation, and the small design at the back (see below) is engineered perfectly! When you swing the toy around, the little ridges contract and expand with the motions. When I noticed that I geeked out a little.

I was a bit worried that with all of the intricate details, it would be hard to clean, but that turned out not to be the case. Since the silicone I got is so soft I was easily able to use my toy cleaner to get in all the little spots. If you use a foaming cleaner you can really see it get into the little spaces, but using a non foaming cleaner I would recommend letting it all sit on the toy for a few moments, just in case.

After doing quite a bit of research and social media hunting on Hankey’s Toys, I started noticing an ‘anal’ trend. It seems like most of the toys (understandably so) are used for anal play. Not only is the size a challenge for vaginal penetration, but the base is also perfectly formed for that use, being thick and flared. I have yet to climb that mountain but I am VERY excited to. The textures and the lump…yummy!

I will absolutely be working with and/or buying more products from Hankey’s Toys in the future. I am in love with their attention to detail and the quality of their products. Just remember, these toys are for size queens. Hankey’s doesn’t do anything small.


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I was sent the Alien Breeder for free by Hankey’s Toys in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!

Phix Puckish

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I love supporting smaller sexual wellness companies so when I got the opportunity to test the Phix Puckish, I was pretty exited. Its an adorable, discreet toy that is great for newbies and pros alike. Plus, like I’ve said before, I’m a sucker for nice packaging, and this toy comes with that, plus some.

The Puckish is made of a silky smooth silicone with a nice ABS plastic gold accent. It is USB rechargeable, which takes about 90 minutes, and the battery apparently lasts up to 6 hours, but I’m sure that entirely dependent on intensity. Speaking of, it has 3 intensity modes on the basic vibration, but it has 12 patterns overall. It is waterproof so washing it and using it in the shower is easy peasy.

I really enjoy the size of the Puckish. It’s only about 7 inches long, with an insertable length of approximately 5 inches. I also love where the motor is located. It’s right at the end, so all g-spot stimulation gets hit with the power and vibrations you need. I also used it as a clitoral vibe and that was pretty nice. Plus, the buttons are really easy to push, which can be both a positive and negative for some people.

The negatives are pretty…negative. The buttons I mentioned before are almost too easy to push and in an awful location for someone with larger hands. The power button is an easy one push on/off and I managed to do that more than once during my testing.

The design of the shaft is also pretty bad. The description says flexible, but I’m used to a nice wiggle or squish, not a full on bend in half. That was definitely something I was concerned with during play. It seemed like there just wasn’t enough support through the middle. You’ll be fine if you’re relatively gentle with it, though.

The vibrations are very powerful and I love it! Unfortunately they are a bit on the buzzy side for me, and might be for others as well. The various patterns are really nice and strong, so finding a pattern that you like shouldn’t be hard. I also found it hard to hold onto after a while, as the vibrations traveled into the grip.

The price of the Puckish is $49, which I feel is too high for this toy. I’ve had much nicer toys in the $30 range. The Puckish is fairly average and the quality is just ok. I love that it’s body safe, water proof, and that it has a really long battery life, but in reality it’s just a glorified dildo.


I was sent the Puckish for free by Phix in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!

How to Clean Your Sex Toys (Spices of Lust)

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Cleanliness is next to godliness, and when it comes to keeping your sex toys clean, it is an act of god. A mandatory exercise! Because no matter how much pleasure you derive from it, the toy needs to be squeaky clean and ready to use on the go!


So how do we go ahead and keep them clean and sparkling?
This has been a question on our minds for a long time. Please remember, just water will not do, that dildo needs to be germ-free before it touches your nerves. The reason is plain and simple- our bodies, no matter how incredible they are, are a hive for the germs.


Be it the tongue or the vagina, they provide not just the moment of madness but plenty of microorganisms too. While that doesn’t mean the body is a bag full of dirt, the possibility of a bacterial buildup on the toys is for real.


The benefit of regularly cleaning the toys are manifold, it keeps them well serviced and hence the longevity. When they are serviced well, their performance will speak for itself. No woman would want her best rabbit vibrator shut off in the middle of a climax. The idea is to be as careful as possible. While you may want the sex to be dirty, you surely will not want the toys to be dirty too.


The ideal routine is to wash them before every use as well as after the use. Every sex toy comes with cleaning instructions and that needs to be followed. Also, the cleaning instructions vary with the material.

What Cleans What and How?

  • If it is made of silicone, glass, or wood and has a motor attached to it, the best way to get rid of those pestering microbes is with an antibacterial soap. After you have washed it well, wipe it clean with a dry cloth.
  • If it’s silicone, stainless steel, or stone and does not have a motor attached to it, hot water does the trick. Place them under hot water for a full 10 minutes and the results would be fruitful. One can run it through the dishwater too without even need of the soap. The steam will take care of the germs.
  • Leather gives you pleasure. However, it is also an exotic material and needs a lot of attention. The product needs to be wiped with a damp cloth soaked in soap. One can also use a leather cleaner. Friendly advice, never soak the leather. It will lose its texture and softness forever. After it has been cleaned, use a leather conditioner to recondition it. Leather toys have metal parts attached to it. To protect them from rusting, use nail polish. One cleaning hack that has never failed.

However, probably the best way to clean your sex toys are special toy cleaning products, but also not all of them. Antibacterial soaps as well as alcohol that can be found in many sex toy cleaning products can dry out your sex toy. When buying a sex toy cleaner, you should keep an eye on several ingredients. We recommend avoiding alcohol, triclosan, parabens and glycerine as those are harsh chemicals and can be harmful to your body.


In case you’re wondering which one is a good choice, here’s one – Intimate Earth Green Foaming Toy Cleaner, sold by MedAmour. And not only are the ingredients great, but this cleaner does a great job with silicone, glass and stainless steel toys.

Why the fuss?

Sex toys are primarily tools that will be used over the human body and some, a few inches inside. That makes them high precision tools of sorts. Pun apart, before buying a sex toy, remember to check how body safe is it. Or whether the material that has been used to build these toys are safe for the human body.


Materials like jelly, Cyberskin, vinyl and rubber should best be avoided, they are porous and generally difficult to maintain. Porous materials have pockets within their structure that can collect body fluids, which is a conducive environment for germs. That is why, non-porous objects are easy to maintain, and hence they last longer too.


Should you use toys made of said materials, we recommend using condoms. Not only are they almost impossible to clean, but materials like vinyl and rubber can contain dangerous chemicals (phthalates) which are dangerous for your skin. So the best you can do is to stay away.


Nothing works better than boiling. Simply insert the toys into a mug of boiling water and let it take care of all the germs that. Be careful of some toys though. And this is important for the ones which have a motor attached to it, check whether it is detachable. If yes, the battle is won. Separate, splash the part minus the motor into hot water. Take it out and wipe it clean.


Lovemaking is a pleasurable experience and a memorable one too, if everything planned stays on course. However, safety trumps all, and with our how to keep sex toys clean advisory, you can go one notch up and turn it harder.


Spices of Lust is a blog created by Leja and Luka, a couple in their mid-20’s. Initially, Spices of Lust was supposed to be a place to share our journey exploring sexuality, but it evolved to be so much more. Both of them enjoy crafting content related to sex and that is why, their blog is home to many guides, ideas, sex toy reviews, and occasional erotic stories. Since they moved to the US, not even 2 years ago, Spices of Lust gained traction and got picked in Top 100 sex blogs of 2019 as well as Top 10 new blogs of 2019. When they are not taking pictures of dildos or writing about floggers, Luka enjoys cooking and Leja enjoys eating. Find them online @spicesoflust

No Mud, No Lotus: The Downside of Submission and Why I Wouldn’t Change a Thing (Holly Deeply)

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My name is Holly and I am submissive. I know, it sounds like a 12-step introduction, but submission is a very particular sexual identification in the BDSM community and I am rather proud of that association. I did not choose submission or this lifestyle; I am submissive and I am a part of the lifestyle whether I participate actively or not. In fact, I eat, breath, sleep, write about, fantasize about, and feel submission in every aspect of my life. I use what I have learned through submissive play in both my personal and professional life.


However, as with many things in life, submission comes with suffering. To say I wasn’t prepared for the disappointments is an understatement. But as the Buddhists say, “no mud, no lotus.” If we know how to use the mud, or pain, we can learn to grow beautiful lotuses, or joy. We cannot seek or focus on pleasure exclusively as we may begin to believe emotional pain is something to avoid at all costs. There are lessons in that pain, and I’m about to share some of mine.

SUB FRENZY

Sub frenzy is a crazy roller coaster ride that comes with no warning. It was like a switch had turned on and all of my senses were suddenly alive and raw. I became unhinged and my inner slut emerged. I hungered for Domination. I didn’t care if He ever wanted to see me again, I simply never wanted the feeling to end. Every bite, slap, orgasm, and bruise sent me into a state of euphoria more pleasurable than anything I had experienced. I wanted to be used 24/7. I lacked discernment and I did not ask appropriate questions. As a result, I placed myself into some very unsafe situations that I am grateful to have come out of unharmed.


Along with meeting with Dominants, I was reading everything I could get my hands on regarding the various types of submissives and the kinds of relationships that existed. I joined Fetlife and started learning about kinks. All I wanted to do was talk about my newfound self, but I didn’t have any friends in the lifestyle. I had read about a term called “subsister,” but how the hell was I supposed to make female friends when all I cared about is being choked, gagged, spanked, and disciplined? Frenzy is this crazy, slutty little minx that wants her way and doesn’t care about the consequences.

Frenzy may come and go for a submissive, but for me it lasted almost a year. It wasn’t until I experienced a particular Dominant that my mind quieted and I understood what I am and who I was meant for. I saw and felt my purpose so clearly that frenzy subsided. It was a relief, to be honest. Now that I am out of frenzy, I can see its importance and see how pivotal it was in shaping me as a submissive. I was free and open and I didn’t have any judgments about what I would or wouldn’t do. Playtime was my classroom and I wanted a PhD in submission. Now I know my submission is constantly evolving and there is no limit on what I can learn or experience.

FRIENDSHIPS ENDED

During sub frenzy, I wanted to tell everyone about this fantastic thing I had discovered about myself. My passion for BDSM was oozing from every pore in my body. I was so overwhelmed and excited, I didn’t realize – or remember – how closed minded most of society is about sexual taboos. Until the fifth edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) was released in 2013, BDSM was considered a deviant behavior and could warrant loss of children in a custody battle. BDSM was not dinner table conversation and there are a lot of misconceptions of the lifestyle.


Regardless of that fact, I began telling friends of my new found self, and I was met with both negative and inflammatory reactions. I was called a slut, a sex addict, a doormat, ignorant, and stupid among other things. I was confused at their responses. These were my friends and they knew me. Some said I was going through a phase and it would pass, mid-life crisis even. I was given an ultimatum from my best friend at the time to get professional help or the friendship would end.


There was nothing medically wrong with me and that I was a consenting adult, so the friendship ended. To be judged, labeled and abandoned for my sexual preference was humiliating, and it opened up a new world of understanding regarding all types of lifestyles. This was a really painful lesson and I learned to stay quiet and hide. I learned that no matter how progressive the world may seem, conversations around sexual behaviors and practices are still very uncomfortable for most individuals, and here I was singing the praises of ropes and riding crops. I had to make new friends. BDSM is about community and sharing experiences, and this journey is not meant to be taken alone. Slowly, I began to find new, kinky friends and I felt safe discussing my needs and asking questions.

FINDING A PARTNER

I was recently single after a 19 year marriage and I was re-entering the dating pool in the age of technology. It was scary as fuck, and I felt so far out of my comfort zone. But it was dating that led to my discovery of BDSM and my unbridled passion for it. A chance conversation with a man I had been seeing changed my life forever. We explored a bit of bondage and I experienced surrender for the very first time. The freedom and release I experienced in that singular moment was a rebirth. I was forever changed I could not go back to vanilla sex.


I began to read about submission the next day and I joined Fetlife. It didn’t take long before the messages came flooding in (Dominants love a newbie submissive). There are also a few dating sites that are for kink minded individuals. I have had success with both Kinkd and Feeld. That being said, on all three sites, anyone can say they are Dominant and they can say they are looking for exactly the same things. I learned the hard way most Dominants just want to play and do not want the responsibility that goes along with engaging with a submissive – I will get to that subject later on.

There was a lot of excitement around potential partners that was followed by heartbreak. No matter how well I communicated my desires and needs, I was left with the same result after playtime; silence. Finding a good match is extremely difficult. Dating conversations in the kink realm generally begin with, “so what are you looking for?” Sex is usually the first topic on the table and it all begins to look like a negotiation. I learned that if our kinks and sexual desires didn’t align, I didn’t want to take the time to meet. I learned to ask questions like, “how do you manage sub drop,” and “have you ever had a D/s relationship?” I learned to feel into my intuition and energy and pick up on social cues from the very first message.


In the beginning, however, I was hungry for attention and domination. Sub frenzy is insatiable and she wants whatever interaction she can get. But I learned to place some very strict boundaries around offering myself to a Dominant. Submission is a gift we present to a deserving partner. It is not something to be demanded in the first conversation. No, I will not be calling you Sir or Master from the start. I have learned to say no and trusted a gentleman would show himself eventually.

SUB DROP

The most painful aspect of submission for me is sub drop. Sub drop is an emotional and physical experience that mirrors depression. It is a result of crashing hormones after a very intense scene with a partner. It can also occur when a relationship ends with a Dominant. Drop can range from mild symptoms of fatigue to overwhelming feelings of dread and physical pain. The first time I experienced sub drop I had no idea what was happening to me. I felt confused, depressed, scared, unworthy, shame, physical pain, exhaustion, and bewilderment.


I had engaged in several scenes with one particular Dominant over a three week period. Our sessions were intense and sex was transcendent, leaving me floating on clouds for days. There was not enough time in between our sessions for me to come down, so when I finally experienced a drop, it was like crashing into a brick wall and I was alone. The Dominant neither warned me of drop nor supported me through it. He did not return my messages or calls and was completely unavailable to me. His silence added to my feelings of shame and abandonment. It was another Dominant friend that noticed what was happening and he guided and supported me while I navigated my way out of it. I am forever grateful for his assistance and his selfless act of service toward me.


Each submissive experiences drop differently, and the time frame ranges for each of us. What I have learned about myself is that I experience a drop three to five days after a scene, depending on its intensity. So while a Dominant is cuddling me after our session that very same night believing he is giving me after care, I don’t generally want closeness at that time. I am still in a euphoric state feeling all the sensations in my body; I am energized, alert and over stimulated. Any effort of care and connection at that time are somewhat lost on me. I now try to take some of that affection in as I know what will happen to me in the days to come. Regardless of whether I receive after care in the coming days from a partner or not, I have incorporated some practices to care for myself. I make sure to rest, drink lots of water, eat properly for my body, and get gentle exercise. I try to get outside in the sun and walk. I take baths and indulge in self care.


Submissives become another version of themselves during drop and our behavior is quite unpredictable during this time. We will say and feel ridiculous things about ourselves and our partners. We may even act out and seek pleasure or attention from another Dominant to fill the perceived void. This need for validation and reassurance is intense and as important as air. Not every Dominant is willing to guide us through this critical time, but they should be. It is ok to be needy and scared and crave affection and attention. It is ok to feel bad about what happened during a scene and to question our desires and values. What is not okay is for the Dominant to be unavailable during this time. This was an extremely difficult learning curve for me, and I have accepted that there are no guarantees a partner will be able to meet your needs after a session.

NO MUD, NO LOTUS

Despite all that I have highlighted above, being submissive is who I am; this lifestyle is not a choice for me.. The lows of this journey are as equally important as the highs, and the growth I have experienced is priceless. I have learned to communicate my needs, to create boundaries and, most importantly, how to say no. I have forged some beautiful relationships with Dominants, submissives and myself. And the most profound aspect is that the journey never ends. I evolve as a human when I put myself out there and take risks. I have learned to use my suffering as a gateway to understanding and realizing true happiness. No mud, no lotus my friends.


Holly Deeply is a submissive/sacred slut living in Southern California. Writing allows her to share her experiences and passion for BDSM. Healing through D/s play and writing about it is something she hopes to inspire in others living their truth through submission.

Squeeze It (XR Brands) Squeezable Flexible Silicone Butt Plug – Medium

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This review is coming at you a little late. I’ve been REALLY intimidated by this butt plug. After actually forgetting that I had it I immediately went to work on testing it. A friend said that I should call this blog post ‘My Eyes are Bigger Than My Ass’, which is really and truly accurate.

The Squeeze It Plug is made of body safe silicone and a thermo-reactive silexpan. You can easily stick it in the fridge to cool it down and harden it up, or put it in the microwave for a few seconds to get it body temperature and wonderfully pliable. This medium size is 4.3 inches long with an insertable length of 4 inches and a width of 2.5 inches. To compare, the Ballistic Metals Baby Sid Plug is only 2 inches at its width and I couldn’t get that one all the way in.

I actually really enjoyed the feel of this plug. The silkiness of the silicone was nice against my skin and the easy squish texture made the whole experience really comfortable. The gradual increase of size looks pretty intimidating (which it is) but because it’s a pretty slow climb, you can probably get there pretty easy. I wasn’t able to, but it is my GOAL to climb that mountain some day.

Unfortunately, the plug had some of the same issues as the Squeeze It Dildo. The directions say that it has a suction cup but if it does, I couldn’t figure it out. The base is relatively flat and didn’t have much of a curve to it. Also, where the outer silicone attaches to base silicone was already tearing, as was the case with the dildo. Another small issue I have is that when it came to me, it was squished on one side and the dimple that it created has been a permanent fixture on the plug.

Overall, this plug is very enjoyable. If the medium size scares you, Betty’s Toy Box has the full size range from small (2 inches) to large (3 inches). If you’re even braver, buy all 3 and do some serious anal training and gapeage. Either way, for only $25 you get a whole lot of plug to have fun with.


If you’d still like to try it, you can get it HERE  for 10% off using the code PINKSPACELIME


I was sent the Squeeze It Squeezable Flexible Silicone Butt Plug for free by Betty’s Toy Box in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!