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Vibease Ruby

The Vibease Ruby is, interesting. There are many toys that have this similar ‘tickler’ design, but the Ruby had been fully designed beautifully. It’s a gorgeous piece to look at, but that’s about where the praise stops.

The Ruby is made of a silky smooth silicone. The main body of the toy is firmer while the 2 silicone ear pieces are more flexible and squishy. The base of the toy is chiseled to be similar to that of a gem, or ruby (hence the name), which makes the whole toy easy to hold onto.

While in use, the ears are actually quite disappointing. Yes they flutter and buzz as expected, but for something that goes against the delicate skin of the labia, they aren’t as soft as they should be. The tips are very nice as pinpoint stimulation against the clitoris and the nipples, but accidentally press too hard, or slip a bit, and you’ll find yourself getting jabbed in a not so pleasant manner.

You charge it via USB jack plug, which is located on the side of the toy, and the base flashes when charging. It takes about an hour to charge, but on a full charge, you can use it for up to 3 hours! From an outsiders perspective, that may seem amazing, but as soon as you turn it on and feel the hand numbing buzz, you can immediately tell why the battery life is so long.

For a toy that’s almost $70, I’d definitely expect a better motor. The motor within this toy is similar to your run of the mill bullet, which is much cheaper, and will give you the same results. You could even spend about $10 and get something like the Tango, which has an incredible motor, and won’t make your clit numb. However, the motor in the Ruby does make the pinpoint stimulation quite nice. I wouldn’t scoff at someone using this toy on me for some serious foreplay.

The various patterns are actually pretty nice. If the toy had a better motor, I would definitely say that these are some of my favorite vibration patterns I’ve experienced. There are a grand total of 7 options, 3 of which are just different intensities. You to cycle through them by pressing the very small, and difficult to feel, power button (shown in the first image).

Some of the things that you can do with this toy, besides using the quivering ears, is using it just like a regular ol’ bullet. If you turn it on it’s side, with the ears pressed together against your body, you can use the end of the base (where the motor is).

While this toy isn’t something I would recommend for someone who enjoys rumble vibes, I would have to say that it is quite versatile. Unfortunately, the motor quality does not line up with the price point of a toy like this, but it’s still a good option for a body safe, rechargeable, beautifully designed, toy.


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Tailz Pink Bunny Tail Vibrating Anal Plug

This plug is SO much fun! It’s adorable and super powerful. This plug is perfect for all forms of anal play: vanilla, pet play, etc. I am so thrilled to have this in my collection. Might not use it all that often since the size is really intimidating, but it’s definitely a conversation starter!

The Tailz Plug is made of body safe silicone and the bunny poof is made of synthetic fibers. It is splash proof but not submersible, so you can wash it thoroughly but it’s not wise to use this for water play. It is rechargeable via usb plug with a charge time of 60 minutes. You can get up to 90 minutes of play per charge depending on the vibration levels. Plus it comes with a really nice remote so once it’s in, either you or your partner can play with the 3 speeds and 7 patterns.

Unfortunately, the thing that makes this toy so adorable is also one of the biggest negatives. While the tail is adorable, it’s kind of a pain in the ass (pun intended). The power button and the jack are both located almost directly underneath the poof ball. When you go to charge it it’s almost impossible not to get some of the fibers stuck in the plug, which makes me super paranoid.

The good definitely outweighs the bad with this toy. I am a huge fan of the shape of the base since it sits perfectly between my cheeks and doesn’t put any pressure against them. It’s very comfortable. Plus the velvety softness of the silicone makes it a very gentle experience when slipping it in (even if the widest part gets a bit rough). The remote is amazing and works so well, even with the toy inside a body. Plus, the remote controls everything from speed to vibration modes and the buttons are nicely labeled for minimal confusion.

Overall, I would absolutely recommend the Tailz Anal Plug. The tail is adorable (while not totally functional), the materials are extremely high quality, and the size is excellent for those wanting to expand their anal training. Plus its super fun to use with a partner and extra fun if you wanna feel like an adorable little bunny for a little while.


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I was sent the Tailz Pink Bunny Tail Vibrating Anal Plug for free by Naughty Betty’s in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!

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Ballistic Metals Baby Sid Plug 2″

The Ballistic Metals Baby Sid Plug is…intimidating to say the least. I didn’t even get the largest version and it’s huge. This toy was designed by the porn performer Baby Sid to be pleasurable for both penis having and vagina having humans. While I haven’t yet tried this toy vaginally, I am very excited to do so.

The Baby Sid Plug is made of solid aircraft grade aluminum which means it’s heavy and very susceptible to temperature change. The version that I purchased is 2 inches at its widest point. The length, including the base, is 5 inches. Since this toy was designed to go both vaginally and anally, so the whole thing feels amazing no matter what hole you put it in.

For people who are doing anal training, this collection is incredible. The sizes range from 1.5 inches to 2.5 inches, so you can start off small(ish) and go big. It also allows you to feel a more intense sensation anally, instead of starting out with the typical, simple silicone or metal plugs. Great for the risk takers.

My experience was interesting. I haven’t played with anal toys in a hot minute so I’m a bit behind in my training. With this toy I was only able to get it to about halfway round the largest bit before giving up. I definitely tried, but it just wasn’t in the cards. I do, however, have a much easier time when it is helped along by a partner, so hopefully I’ll be able to get it all the way in through team effort.

This is not just a sex toy, this is a piece of art. Even if you don’t end up enjoying this plug, it’s very pretty to display. While the price tag on this product is a tad high, it’s well worth it. The bumps and lumps feel amazing for any body, in any hole.


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VeDO Izzy

The VeDO Izzy is the perfect ‘budget’ clitoral vibe. Not only is VeDo an amazing brand but their motors are the strongest I’ve seen in a budget collection. It’s also one of the first vibes I’ve had where I didn’t have to smash it against my body, so color me impressed. This might just be my favorite go-to travel vibe.

The Izzy is made of a super smooth, body safe silicone. It is rechargeable via USB plug and it is completely submersible. There is a single power button which cycles through all 10 of the unique vibration modes and if you double press the button quickly, it turns on travel lock, so you’ll never have to worry about it buzzing in your luggage.

The shape of this thing is a little odd, but in a great way. It’s not what I expected upon looking at the box, but as soon as I held it for the first time, I understood why it was designed that way. The whole thing actually looks a little phallic, and in a way it kind of reminds me of the shape of my cat when she’s sitting down. The larger base with the power button and the charge port are shaped perfectly to fit in the palm of your hand, while the thinner vibration end is able to slip between your labial folds with ease.

Along the narrow end, there is a squishy silicone nub and it is fantastic! I really thought I wouldn’t like it, or it would just get in the way, but the way that this toy is designed made it extremely useful. The thing that I find most interesting about the Izzy is that it is rideable. This isn’t just your average bullet vibe. This is a toy that you can actually place on a surface, and the shape plus the added stimulation nub, makes it wonderful and easy to use for all body types.

As I’ve mentioned before, I’m not a huge fan of the variety of vibration patterns on most toys, but every once in a while I’ll come across one that I fall in love with. With the Izzy that pattern was the almost heartbeat like pulse. It allowed me to get into an amazing rhythm with my stroking and because it mimicked my heartbeat, my mind automatically associated the feeling with being aroused. It made it so easy to cum which is definitely a positive for me.

The thing that I really dislike is, surprisingly, the motor, or more specifically the design plus the motor. The motor is extremely strong. While usually this a wonderful thing, paired with a toy that is quite short, makes things tricky. Because the motor is so strong, you can feel it throughout the whole toy at full blast, so it made holding onto it for a long period of time, difficult. My fingers got very numb, but that made me all the more thankful that I could lay this sucker down and ride it’s mechanical brains out.

Overall, if you’re looking for a small, travel friendly vibe, I would definitely recommend this one. While it’s not the quietest toy I’ve ever used, it has many functions that can be enjoyed in different scenarios. A huge plus for those of you who like to have fun in unexpected places.


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B-Vibe Rimming Plug Petite

Where to start with this toy? How about HOLY FUCK?! I have become quite the anal fiend as of late and this thing brings me over the edge, literally. The first time I used this thing I had an orgasm so powerful that my partner actually asked me if I faked it because it was so unlike the others that I have. While, yes, that upset me a bit, it also made me SO excited to continue trying this toy to see what other noises it could make me make.

The B-Vibe Rimming Petite is made of 100% body safe silicone and it is splash proof for easy cleaning. It charges magnetically via USB and it has a remote that works up to 30 feet. This thing also features rotating beads in the stem of the toy (for the rimming effect) and the insertable end gives off powerful vibrations.

There are 6 bead patterns and 7 vibration patterns which are really fun to play with, most of which are only accessible through use of the remote. The whole toy measures 4.9 inches with an insertable length of 3.9 inches. The stem is 1 inch wide while the body is 1.4 inches wide. It also has a REALLY pretty travel case that’s shiny black and it’s really tough so it would be really hard to damage the toy.

I’ve only used this toy twice and both were with a partner. The first time it was just playing and intercourse, the second was during a BDSM scene. Using this toy solo or with a partner, I will wholeheartedly recommend that you start the vibrations before inserting it. While the tip is much flatter and blunter than I am use to, when the vibrations were turned on, it made my muscles relax really nice and it was able to be inserted with ease.

The first time we used it, the remote was out of batteries (unfortunately) so we were forced to use it the old fashioned way, by pressing the buttons on the bottom. This was…interesting to say the least. When inserted, it’s SNUG, so any pressing makes the sensations incredible. Whenever my partner would press the button to change the settings, I was so wiggly from the feeling, that I hardly noticed the speed/tempo change in the toy.

We managed to get some new batteries the second time and boy did that make a world of difference. Not only does the remote do things that pressing the button cannot, my partner/dom was able to right torture me with that thing. It was amazing. The speeds that this can get to are amazing. It is such a night and day experience from a non vibrating butt plug, that’s for sure.

My only TEENY TINY negatives about it are only about the rotating beads. It is a tad noisy due to the rimming beads. That’s pretty much to be expected though. I have yet to come across a ‘beaded’ toy that doesn’t make a racket. Also, I sort of wish the beads were a bit bigger. Once you turn on the vibrations, I can’t really tell that it’s a rotating effect, and instead it just feels like a continuation of the vibrations (not that that’s a bad thing!).

Since, there is absolutely nothing seriously negative that I can say about this toy, all I can end with is BUY IT. If you like having your butt played with, this is a must have for your collection. If you’re looking to start training for bigger sizes, again, MUST HAVE! This toy comes in 2 more sizes and you bet your ass I’m going to have (and be able to wear) all 3 in the near future. This toy has made me desperately want to try the rest of the B-Vibe toys. Now excuse me while I make a B-Vibe wish list….


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Kinks and Fetishes

I’ve been trying to talk a lot more about me, and what better way for you to get to know me than by learning about my kinks? I am a submissive by nature but since becoming more of a kinkster I have learned that my TRUE love is being a Little. Now, I don’t like age play, but everything else that comes from being a little (feeling small, weak, protected, owned, etc) makes me feel amazing. Although, something I have really taken to heart lately is this quote: “Remember, labels are for soup cans, not for people.” – tequilarose.

I may identify as a ‘little’ but my spectrum of kinks/fetishes is very broad. Yes, most of the things that I enjoy, I do get from being a little, but there are also some things that are just very arousing for me. Also, being pansexual, I can get my thrill from all genders, not just males. Some of the main things that I love, do involve strength, which, as of right now, I have only found in masculine people. Femmes, step on up! I am ready!

The List

Choking

To me, choking is fairly basic, not that that’s a bad thing. I love it and I know a LOT of people who also enjoy it. Testing the limits of your body and putting your total trust in another human is so powerful. Your life is, literally, in the other persons hands. If that doesn’t scream submission, I don’t know what does.

Anal

I am still fairly new to anal, but(t) I am already obsessed. As I have mentioned MANY times before, my orgasms don’t come easy, however, with anal sex my orgasms are a lot more common. The last time I did anal, I almost came simply from the act itself. The addition of any toy would have put me over the edge. Unfortunately, I still have a bit of a sizing issue as is the case with most anal newbies. Whenever I go up a size in whatever object I am putting back there, I tend to bleed a bit, which is totally ok, as long as it’s not a horrifying amount. I guess I just have to keep working on it!

Biting

Biting is my jam. I love giving and receiving bites. I love soft nibbles and being bitten until I bleed. There’s not much else to say about that. Bite my lip, neck, ear, nipples, thighs, feet, I don’t care, I love it all.

Nipple Play

Nipple play has always been a strange thing for me. Because of past trauma, I don’t do gentle. I like my nipples played with rough and greedy. I am a huge fan of nipple clamps, pinching, biting (see above), and other various other forms of nipple aggression. One of my VERY favorite things is when someone reaches up the front of my shirt and plays with them. Just in case anyone ever wonders why I love crop tops and no bra, that’s why.

Forced Submission (Consensual Non-Consent)

Out of respect of the people who might be triggered by this type of kink, I won’t go into too much detail about CNC or my specific history with it. For me, it’s just all about domination. Going into a scene or a situation where I know that I am going to be dominated 100% is so thrilling.

Restraints/Being Restrained

Everyone interprets the ‘restraints’ kink differently. Some people really enjoy rope play, others might only enjoy wearing cuffs on occasion, but I enjoy all of it…to an extent. I am not a huge fan of being fully restrained, but I do enjoy wrist and ankle restraints of any kind, as well as wearing a collar (but that really…TIES…into the choking category). However, take off the cuffs and rope to use your hands and/or your body to keep me restrained, you will get no objection from me of ANY kind.

Group Sex/Worship

One of my absolute biggest kinks is group sex, specifically where I am the center of attention at some point or another. To have multiple peoples mouths, hands, and other various body parts on me is…phenomenal. It makes me feel like such a goddess. Some part of me thinks it’s because I’m submissive, and to be under the control of multiple humans at the same time gives me some sort of sexual, sensory overload. Another part of me just thinks it’s because I’m a needy little bitch.

Impact Play

Slap me, spank me, flog me, really just do whatever you want to me.

Arms/Hands

I have ALWAYS been a huge fan of bulky arms and large hands (masc or femme!). I really have no idea why, but who the fuck cares. Arms fresh from working out is my favorite, when the veins are all bulgy and they’re all sweaty….mmmm. Excuse me for a minute.

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Being a Squirter

First things first, I’m not here to tell you what squirting is. A few minutes on Google will bring up so many websites that will tell you, in way more detail, what squirting is and different ways to do it. I am simply going to tell you about my life as a squirter and what that means, for me.

I’ve always been able to squirt and, to me, being a squirter means making a huge mess. I’ve gone back and forth on whether or not it’s actually pee (which it totally isn’t…I think), I’ve been worshiped for it, and mocked for it. Needless to say, I have a mixed history with with squirting. I also feel like I squirt…weird. Almost every single website about ‘how to squirt’ makes it seem like it’s only a g-spot thing. That isn’t the case with me. I ONLY squirt from clitoral orgasms.

I recently posted a blog about my lack of orgasm. I am still (sort of) unsure about why I have such a hard time. I deduced that mental illness and medications may be mostly to blame, but I didn’t want that to just be the end of it. I kept experimenting and really trying to understand my body more. After a few weeks of that, I had the realization that sometimes I lose my orgasm because am a squirter. Not in the ‘I’ve squirted a little a few times’ kind of way, but in the way that, for me, is actually sort of embarrassing. I make a huge mess and knowing that prevents me from fully letting go.

I’ve only squirted with a couple of my partners (mostly because I was faking almost all my orgasms from go to 20, but that’s a story for another time). The first time I squirted in front of someone and not just by myself, the look on their face was pure joy. I still don’t understand why since it’s so normal for me and I had seen it so many times in porn. I thought ‘isn’t this what everyone does?’. Oh boy was I wrong. I got an ear full after that.

Unfortunately, I learned that being a squirter isn’t always such a magical thing. At one point I squirted so hard there was HUGE spot of the bed covered in it. I was so surprised at the amount that I texted my boyfriend at the time with a photo. His response was “I hope you’re cleaning that up…”, which he meant as a joke, but I did not take it that way. I was so insecure about the fact that it happens that I didn’t do it again for months. I felt disgusting.

While that definitely left me with some scarring, I bounced back fairly quickly on the orgasm front. I learned new ways to have orgasms that didn’t involve squirting and, even though it was definitely difficult to control something that comes naturally to me, I managed, until recently.

Ever since I figured that out, and become ok with it, I’ve been able to have way more orgasms. Yes, I mess up the sheets almost every time I come, but I don’t always have that mental wall blocking me. If you need to squirt, fucking squirt. While some people may not like it (I suggest mentioning it before you get freaky with someone), anyone who makes you feel like shit about it doesn’t deserve your come all over them.

My advice to anyone who wants to squirt is experiment with yourself, let yourself go, and invest in some amazing clean up towels, which I will be doing a review for later on. There is more than one way to squirt and you need to find your way, and if you can’t, don’t worry, not everyone can. The hardest part about accepting this about myself is that it needs to happen. If I don’t squirt once in a while, my body literally starts rejecting my orgasms. It’s great…

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Introducing Toys in the Bedroom (BTS #1)

Question: How can I introduce toys into the bedroom?

Introducing toys in the bedroom can be a daunting experience, but it doesn’t have to be! Sex toys are fun, sexy, and the perfect way to try new things. Communication and honesty are key when trying anything new with a partner. There is no reason to fear a sex toy. Just make sure both parties are comfortable (and the toys in question are body safe!!).

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Kaja Echo

Toys can be such a fun way to enhance your sexual experience, solo or with a partner. If your partner is a little hesitant to try them, I recommend starting with a little bit of research – online and offline!

One way to gauge your partner’s interest in a particular toy is to periodically show them photos of toys that interest you. You can say, “This looks cool! Would you ever try something like this?” Or you can tell them specifically what you like about a toy: “I love the shape of this dildo” or “The silicone looks like it would feel so nice!” Sometimes I bookmark articles about toys I’d like to try and when our online conversation gets a little naughty, I’ll send him a link to a toy review and let him know how I’d like to use it on him or myself. Putting it in context allows your partner’s imagination to run wild. 

A fun, flirty, and dirty date can be a shopping trip to find a toy to use together! I’ve found that trips to my local shop are educational in two ways. Browsing together inspires conversation and provides you with a safe, sex-positive space to explore. Many shops have a playful vibe and laughter can often inspire connection and help you drop your guard. You can also get help from the shop’s salesperson and learn about how to use a harness or perhaps what impact toys are best for beginning use. Have the salesperson show you how a vibrator works or which lubes they like. It’s all inspiration for when you get home…

Introducing something new into the bedroom can be a bit scary for some of us. Asking for what we desire makes us vulnerable. But as long as you and your partner are willing to communicate and negotiate, introducing toys into the bedroom can be a light-hearted, hot as fuck way to connect.

DildoQueen (Meg)

I get this question A LOT in my DMs. Everyone has their own backgrounds and experiences that shape their perspectives on sexuality and sexual expression. Some people are comfortable with the idea of exploring sex toys, and others are not. (It’s totally fine either way!) That said, if you are someone who is wanting to use sex toys with a partner, there are a few tips I have that can assist you in those conversations.

The #1 thing that I am going to recommend is just talking to your partner. This seems like an obvious one, but sometimes when people get nervous they forget the basics. Tell your partner about your fantasies involving toys. It isn’t always super easy discussing your desires and sexual wants, but it is important. Your needs matter. Your feelings matter. Your pleasure matters. Letting your partner know that you care about their feelings, but also letting them know where your head is at is super healthy and wonderful. 

One of the next things I typically recommend for incorporating toys (after discussing it with your partner) is mutual masturbation. We’ve all heard of doing a sexy striptease, but have you heard of mutual masturbation? Think of it as your own private cam show. Often times, sex is rushed and the goal is to get to an orgasm suuuper fast. We don’t allow ourselves to connect in with our partners and see what their body is doing while they orgasm. Masturbating together gives you that opportunity. I can’t think of a single person who after seeing their partner getting themselves off thinks “wow. I feel like I am going to be replaced by their hands..” No. The thought is “Woah. That was hot. How can I recreate that? How can I give my partner that kind of pleasure?!”. (The answer is sex toys.)

From both professional and personal experience, I feel that often times the discomfort with the idea of sex toys comes from a place of fear. There is a common misconception that sex toys will “replace” a partner. For anyone who may be feeling this way, I have good news for you: In all the years I have been selling sex toys, I have never heard of anyone being replaced by a toy. In my personal opinion, if a relationship were to be ended by someone using a sex toy, the couple probably had some other deeper issues going on that they may not have been addressing. Either way, communication is key. Go have fun! Try something new! Access. That. Pleasure. Reach new heights and have some orgasms together 🙂


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Where is My Orgasm?

Recently, some of you may have noticed me talking a lot about my ‘missing’ orgasms. It’s not like I don’t have them, they are just very hard to come by. It makes me sad, mad, frustrated, and sometimes a little crazy. My own personal mental and physical health issues are huge factors, I know this, but I can’t be alone. I need to know that I am not the only person who can’t cum within mere minutes of diddling.

My solo orgasm, with a toy, took approx 25 minutes. The average ‘aroused’ vulva having person takes about 20 minutes to orgasm, while the average penis having person only takes about 5 minutes. That is just the average. In reality, I’m with a partner that has a hard time lasting 5 minutes, and I last much longer than the ‘average’ 25 minutes. Not really a great mix. We’re definitely working on it all. With him we’ve tried cock rings and other methods, which seem to be working great, so don’t feel too bad.

Some (bio)logical reasons for my lack of orgasms or difficulty finding them could be my anti anxiety meds or my PCOS. It’s fairly common for anti anxiety meds to reduce libido so that could be something to explore. I am currently taking 40mg of Prozac every day, which isn’t the highest dosage but I take it alongside Buspirone. Prozac is one of the worst SSRIs for sexual drive, so there’s really no surprise there. I am actually going to start halving my dosage gradually to see how that affects everything. Unfortunately, it can take up to 2 months to start to see any changes.

With PCOS, my hormones are all sorts of fucked up so I’m sure that plays into it sometimes. Also, with PCOS, changes in libido are very common. Low testosterone levels usually lead to a low libido. On the other hand, like me, high testosterone issues lead to high libido, but it also leads to some other not-so-attractive issues. Besides libido, PCOS may be a factor in sensitivity and mental health problems surrounding the illness.

I’ve also found that a lot of my issues come from mental blocks. My ex was abusive as I have talked about many times. He used orgasms as a ‘punishment’ when he was upset. He ended up bruising my pelvic bone a few times with how rough he was with me. I ended up having to continuously fake my orgasms just to get him to stop. As a result, I didn’t have my first partnered orgasm until a couple months into my relationship with my husband. I was sick of lying about it and I told him that I had been faking. It wasn’t until a few days ago that I really understood why.

Within the last few days I have been diving deep into my past and traumas to maybe find something there. Yes, I was abused as a child, yes, I had an extremely abusive ex, but I never saw anything there to indicate why those events were affecting what was happening now, with the exception of the fact that I still have some insecurities about whether or not I ‘deserve’ to be worshiped and given orgasms, even solo.

Most of the time I feel like my partner is getting bored or is hurting his arm/legs/jaw in some way because it’s taking too long. He has REPEATEDLY told me this is not the case. He loves making me cum no matter how long it takes because he likes to think of it as a fun challenge. One of his favorite things is watching me get off and maybe that pressure doesn’t help. The idea that I can’t a lot of the time makes me feel so self conscious and frustrated. I feel like I’m letting both of us down. I’m a sex blogger for fucks sake. My job is to have orgasms.

I also found out a weird thing. Before my accident, when I hated my body, I was entirely able to have partnered orgasms and easy solo orgasms. Now, I love my body and it’s the hardest thing in the world. Maybe before I thought about my body so entirely that the other stuff never came to mind, and now I have nothing to distract myself from the possibility of being annoying.

As for solo orgasms, I feel like a major factor in my issues with those is the expectation of an orgasm. I cannot stop thinking about what will get me off versus what feels really good. I mean, it all feel amazing, but even when I’m just playing with myself, I get the anxiety thoughts of ‘this is taking too long, you’re not normal’.

I was reading another sex blog the other day and the author was saying that 10 minutes to orgasm was a long time and it was frustrating for her. While I do understand that every body and mind is different, I would KILL to have an orgasm in 10 minutes. This is definitely the type of stuff that I should not be focusing on, but most of the time I can’t help it when thoughts like this pop into my head.

My partner has been so supportive through all of this. His sex drive isn’t as high as mine so sometimes he doesn’t really mind, but he definitely sympathizes with how frustrating this is for me, someone who used to be a 2+ times per day masturbater. While I’m waiting to see if reducing my medication dosage makes things better, we’re still going to work on everything as if that isn’t going to help. Hopefully, eventually, I can focus of the moment instead of that huge pressure to have an orgasm.

Since sex drive, wetness, and most other things that go along with ‘sexual dysfunction’ are not an issue, we’ll continue on the path of toys. Since both of my jobs are all about sex toys, I have a plethora. Changing it up seems to help, but when I’m having a particularly rough couple of weeks, I like to stick to what I know. That way there are no surprises (good or bad). This helps me stay more focused because I know what that particular toy does for me.

When I am having problems for a long period of time, the thing that has worked for me is extreme distraction. I usually blast a fan and some music just to get my mind off of life. The fan is great white noise and the music I chose usually has really harsh beats that I can find a toy or finger rhythm to.

The most important thing that I can express to anyone who is reading this who is having issues is communicate. Whether that be to a partner, a doctor, a therapist, etc, just talk. Make sure the people who need to know (and should know) what is going on inside your head are kept in the loop. Also, of you’re considering going on or off medication ALWAYS talk to a doctor. These types of medications are no joke.

You can always reach out to me on Twitter, Instagram, and via email thepinkspacelime@gmail.com

Here is some information on anxiety medications and libido:
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/antidepressants-decreased-my-sex-drive_n_7024738
https://www.buzzfeed.com/caseygueren/feeling-happy-but-not-sexy
https://www.health.harvard.edu/womens-health/when-an-ssri-medication-impacts-your-sex-life
https://www.thecut.com/2018/02/ssri-sex-drive-side-effects-anxiety.html

Here is some more information on what PCOS is:
https://www.pcosaa.org/symptoms
https://www.womenshealth.gov/a-z-topics/polycystic-ovary-syndrome
https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/pcos/symptoms-causes/syc-20353439

PCOS and Libido:
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4233312/
https://www.floliving.com/pcos-libido/
https://www.womenshealthmag.com/health/a19998507/pcos-affects-your-sex-life/
https://pcos.com/low-sex-drive-and-pcos/

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Blush Novelties – Aria – Vibra Wand – Cerise

When I saw that Blush had a pink and lime toy I just HAD to get it, and I am so glad I did. This is definitely one of my favorite mini toys. This ultra mini wand is great for travel and for beginners. It packs a punch and it’s super discreet. This is a wonderful clitoral and nipple stimulation toy. Duel use is always a plus for me!

The Aria Vibra Wand is made of 100% body safe ABS plastic plus a smooth silicone vibrating head. The whole thing is so satiny and luscious. It takes 2 AAA batteries that are inserted below the twistable bottom cap. It’s ALMOST 100% waterproof. You can clean it fine, use it in the shower, and be a squirter no problem, but I would not recommend submerging it for more than a couple of seconds.

It has 5 speeds and 5 patterns. Simply hold the power button down for about 3 seconds and you’re off. The patterns aren’t mind blowing, but the speeds will get you to where you need to go. The vibration range is pretty amazing and it’s a lovely rumbly vibe instead of a ‘buzz your clit off’ vibe. That’s always a huge plus for me.

This wand is the PERFECT travel size. The whole thing is about 4.75 inches and the head is about 1.5 inches. This makes it a great size for all hands and the head is long enough for us BBWs. Plus the shape of the body makes it super easy to grip. I personally hold it like a pencil (or some other writing instrument) and use it that way to diddle myself.

I pretty big negative for me was the flexibility of the head. As I have mentioned more times than I ever thought I would, I am a clit smasher with toys. If I can’t put adequate pressure on my bean, it’s not working for me. Luckily, the silicone head isn’t attached to a super long, flexible neck, so if you just push a little bit, you can pin it against the top of the handle.

Overall I would definitely recommend this adorable ultra mini wand. It’s relatively quiet for how powerful it is so it’s great for vacation or that mid day pick me up at work. Whether you’re a beginner or wand expert, this would be a pretty amazing toy to add to your collection. There are also 4 different color combinations, so it fits anyone’s style! Also, with a 5 year warranty, why not give it a try!?


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I was sent the Aria Vibra Wand for free in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!