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KISSTOY – C-King Clitoris Stimulator

I never thought I would fall so in love with another pinpoint toy. After reviewing other pinpoint stimulation toys, such as the Noje Quiver (my original favorite pinpoint toy) and then the Zumio X, I was a bit skeptical of the C-King by KISSTOY. All of that skepticism went out the window as soon as I turned it on!

The C-King is made of a silky smooth ABS plastic and is 100% waterproof for water time fun. There are 5 different vibration speeds that range from ‘oh yeah!’ to ‘oh fuck!’. It takes approximately 2 hours for it to charge and has a use time of up to 90 minutes.

I am blown away by the charging of this toy. Yes, it has a magnetic USB charger like the Quiver and technically the Zumio X, but that’s not all! The C-King comes with a very sturdy travel case, which ALSO doubles as a charging stand! You can charge the toy on its own with just the USB cable or in the travel case (cover on or off!) I’m getting very excited talking about this, so bear with me.

This toy is also EXTREMELY quiet! The first time I turned it on, I was worried that it was broken. I couldn’t hear it! I actually had to put my ear up to it for there to be any intense noise. It is legitimately the first time I have received a toy with ‘whisper mode’ that actually holds to that descriptor! The previous pinpoint toys were an absolute let down in that regards.

The tips (yes plural) are mind blowing! While the main tip is about the same length as the Quiver, it has the roundness of the Zumio X, but it’s a perfect combination of both. The silicone caps that come with it are actually the best thing to happen to my clit, and nipples. The rounded cap makes the tip larger and the vibrations much more rumbly instead of intensely buzzy like the previous two pinpoint toys. The cap that (to me) looks like a kitty head is wonderful on my nipples. The curve perfectly encapsulates the tips and drives me nuts!

The orgasms this thing gives me are incredible. I thought the Quiver gave me great orgasms, but the last time I used the C-King, I came TWICE, in 5 MINUTES! For me, that is ridiculous. I had no complications with its size, shape, nothing. My larger than average clit is pleased, my belly doesn’t get in the way, and the decibels allow me to use this toy in peace without disturbing my partner (even while locked in a studio apartment during the pandemic!)

If I were to say anything negative about the C-King it’s that maybe the handle vibrates a bit too much. When it’s on the highest setting, things in the upper part of the grip go a bit tingly. Also, the button to turn it on is a press and hold for 3 seconds power button. In comparison to the Zumio X single press, this toy might be a bit more difficult for people who have a hard time with finger/hand pressure.

Out of all of the pinpoint stimulation toys, this is by FAR my favorite. It gives me incredible orgasms, it’s mostly fully body inclusive, plus it’s so pretty and sleek! In the battle for pinpoint, the C-King is…well…King (even though I absolutely abhor gender titled sex toys *eye roll*)


You can get the C-King HERE


I was sent the KISSTOY C-King for free by BestVibe in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!

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The Butters Hygienics – PMS Rescue with Sage, Epsom, and Evening Primrose

I was on the hunt for some more small businesses to work with when I got in contact with The Butters. They asked which product I was interested in reviewing. After telling them that I have PCOS, they recommended me trying the PMS Rescue Cream, and it was better than I could have imagined!

PMS Rescue is hand made using all vegan ingredients. There are an abundance luxurious oils like coconut, soy, and grape seed. To make things even softer, they add in aloe and shea. There are many other incredible ingredients, but to make this the PMS Rescue, they add Epsom Salt, Peppermint, Neem, Evening Primrose, Clary Sage, and Lemongrass.

When I used this, I had some back pain and cramps. When I went to sleep, I rubbed this all over my lower back and pelvic area. The smell of this cream lulled me right to sleep and I slept amazing! I woke up feeling refreshed and my skin had never felt better.

Unfortunately, there is one big negative to this product. Since all the materials and ingredients are natural, with no added chemicals, the smell that I woke up to the next morning was not entirely pleasant. I’m not sure why or what happened. When using this cream specifically, make sure you’re able to continually rub it in, cover it with another cream, and/or wash it off before letting it sit on you for an extremely extended period of time.

Even with the not so pleasant morning after smell, after trying this product, you can bet your moisturized behind that I will soon be stocking my home with as many Butters products that I can. I love supporting small businesses even more so when all of the products are hand made! There is so much love put into every single bottle. Please, try The Butters for yourself!


I was sent the PMS Rescuese for free by The Butters Hygienics in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!

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Sportsheets Saffron Vegan Leather Thigh Strap

The Sportsheets Saffron Vegan Leather Thigh Strap is ALMOST perfect and it has definitely earned a spot in my permanent collection. This product makes sex so much more comfortable for both partners, especially ones with pain issues. The size of it is super inclusive too, which, if you’ve read ANY of my past blogs, you’ll know that’s super important to me.

The Saffron Thigh Sling is made out of polyurethane PU leather, so as the name suggests, it is a great vegan option for us plant powered kinksters. It has a padded neck rest with handy loops for extra kinky fun with restraints. The thigh straps are also super comfy and padded. The size of them allowed me to put them all the way up at the largest part of my thighs with no issue, so even us thick thighed folx can have loads of comfortable fun. Plus, the straps are super adjustable!

I had SO much fun with this thing. Not only did it allow my to keep my legs up in otherwise painful positions, but it also allowed my partner to have more control of his own body, without having to worry about mine, thus resulting in more satisfying penetration. Unfortunately, there is one itty bitty flaw with this product. If you are a larger person, beware of using the straps for super rough sex while the straps are higher up your thighs. This did result in a bit of chafing of my nipples and some catching on my piercings from the straps.

Overall, I would DEFINITELY recommend this product to everyone. You can use it in so many fun ways. It helps people of all body types with lovely penetrative positions and makes any kinky play, much more interesting with the addition of the cuff loops on the neck pillow. Plus, imagine oral with this thing! Just prop your legs up in the sling and relax as your partner goes to town.


You can get the Sportsheets Saffron Thigh Sling right HERE 


I was sent the Saffron Thigh Sling for free by Naughty Betty’s in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!

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About Last Night…

I have been married to an amazing person for almost 10 years. We are best friends, we tell each other everything, we’re open and honest, and we never let things fester. Lately, I had been having some pretty serious thoughts about our relationship. After a couple of weeks of mulling things over, I decided I had thought about it enough on my own and now it was time to sit down and discuss it.

I told him that I had been getting turned on by the idea of another person fucking me, him knowing, and getting turned on by that, or even joining in. I had learned a while ago that a lot of men actually have this fetish as well, so I was curious about his thoughts on all of it. I knew that we had discussed it being his fetish when we first got engaged, but I don’t remember much else around that time.

When we met, I was with an awful human being. This man was physically, mentally, emotionally, and sexually abusive. When I met my husband, he quickly became my best friend, and eventually helped me escape that relationship.

After I had left my ex, I had a lot of healing to do, both from him and from past sexual traumas. Apparently, for me to heal, I needed to block out certain chunks of time from around the end of that relationship, to about 6 months into my new one. I had no idea that I had done this, until my husband mentioned that we had actually started practicing this lifestyle, and apparently I had a part time girlfriend. We would would fool around while he was at work, and then at one point, we had a threesome…all for me.

It was like one of those movie moments. The camera pans in really fast on my eyes as they widen from some amazing realization. I FINALLY REMEMBERED! Like most moments in your life when you remember a lot of stuff all at once, I got very emotional. I realized that my past traumas had prevented me from just BEING for a large chunk of my life and I was remembering all the things my brain had allowed me to forget. It was rough.

I was suddenly remembering all of the trauma my ex had put me through, specifically sexually, and I hated him so much more. I allowed this piece of shit to ruin my self image. He took away my ability to love myself and to feel like I deserved to be loved. He put me in so many situations that I hated myself for and forced a lifestyle onto me that I wasn’t ready for. He knew this, but never cared. One of the major non-physical traumas that happened during our relationship was, for a whole week he was fucking 2 other people and telling me that he was at the hospital with his grandfather. I only learned about that one after I had left him, hence the continued need for healing for a few months after that relationship had ended.

After speeding through all THAT lovely imagery, I got to my current relationship, and all the blocked out chunks of time within it. I remembered all of our conversations about loving each other, the fact that his sex drive isn’t what I need sometimes, and that lack of jealousy isn’t lack of love. Being so young and having gone through all that shit when we got together, I didn’t quite understand why he was so OK with this. I was confused and I thought that him ‘not caring’ about me sleeping with other people for a fetish we had, meant that he’d be out sleeping with people too, all the while telling me that ‘it’s for the fantasy’, and making me believe that I was the one who was wrong and/or crazy.

That was never the case, and in fact, we were extremely hot and heavy during all of this. The only reason why we stopped being part of that lifestyle, was that we moved. It seemed like our move away, forced me to start healing. We never mentioned it again and all of our experiences fell away.

Fast forward to 2018 when I got into my massive car accident and everything changed. Like I’ve mentioned before and in my ‘About’ bio, I suddenly began to love myself again. Having a near death experience can do that. After the accident, we had found our fire again. I was no longer self conscious of my body, so I was extremely free to explore my new found sexuality.

A few months later I began to explore the world of sex work. I LOVED it. After I stopped, I actually missed it, and I started to wonder why. I figured out the reason was because I was being adored and lusted after by other people. That lust and adoration was directly linked to my amazing ‘IRL’ sex life. After I stopped being a sex worker, our sex life slowed down again. It wasn’t as bad as before the accident, but it was definitely noticeable. Since I DID remember that in the past he had mentioned this fetish to me, I decided to take a stab at doing some of my own research. Turns out that’s exactly what I wanted as well.

When we finally sat down to talk, things were amazing. We talked about communication, boundaries, fantasies, and rules. I thought he would be totally against the idea of even discussing it, but after the realization that I probably should have gone to more therapy, things just clicked. I remembered that in my sexual history I had had a grand total of 3 threesomes, and I loved every minute of it. I remember being the center of attention for most of those events and at that point I couldn’t keep my hands off of him. We spent the next hour having amazing sex (since all that talk of other people fucking me was basically hardcore foreplay) and over the next few days we would talk some more.

Now that things are all out in the open, we’re giving it some time. We’ve gone back to having amazing sex, pretty much any time we can, and in a few months we’re going to re-discuss this lifestyle (and possibly give it a try). We’ve done solo research and partnered research all to identify the exact relationship style we’d like to have, so that there is no questioning the rules and boundaries we will be setting.

The reason why I decided to tell you this story is to show you just how important communication and honesty are within ANY type of relationship. Whether that be casual, non monogamous, open, poly, etc, you need to talk. I told him about my ideas, he told me about his worries, and so on. We understand that talking and not letting things get bottled up is the only way that we can successfully explore our options and have a healthy relationship.

[If you need/want to talk about your own experiences please do not hesitate to email me or DM me on social media]

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My Two Weeks as a BBW Sex Worker

I never thought I would even consider being a sex worker. I had so many ideas of what sex workers did, looked like, felt about themselves, etc. All of my preconceived notions of sex work were 100% wrong. After completing this experiment I realized that sex work can be fun, lucrative, and an amazing self confidence booster. It’s the rest of the world that makes it out to be this dirty, immoral, thing. This is my experience as a BBW (Big Beautiful Womxn) sex worker.

Why Did I do this experiment?

The first reason why I decided to try sex work is to simply see if I could. Being a bigger woman, I was unsure of the need. I did my research and found that there are many, beautiful, full figured women in the sex worker industry. After thinking it through, and doing so much research, I decided why not, and jumped in.

I really wanted to experience what these wonderful people go through. Now I only did it for 2 weeks, so I probably didn’t get the full experience, but I loved it. No wonder people do this!! I was worried my self confidence would be shit, or I would get nothing but nasty comments, but that didn’t happen, much to my surprise.

Pros

One of the most surprising things that came from all of this was my self confidence boost. Before I started this experiment, my self confidence was growing every day, but this shot it to 11 within 48 hours. I’m still not too sure why this happened, but I loved it.

Speaking of self confidence, the sex life with my partner was reignited to the extreme. I used to hate my body. I would be so self conscious about any sort of intimacy. Now I don’t give a fuck. I love my rolls, my marks, my hair, etc. I sincerely love myself and the way I look. Making that mental change within myself made our physical relationship so much stronger.

I honestly got so many less nasty comments than I thought I would get. The nastiest comments I got were about my lack of content, not my actual content. If you’re worried about people being blatantly mean and cruel about your appearance, don’t. It didn’t happen. I’m sure the professionals get their fair share, but I feel like they love themselves too much to care about one salty perv.

The most surprising ‘pro’ is that I made a few sales! I only had a few videos but I sold 2 and had one Premium Snapchat subscriber. This was just in 2 weeks. That’s amazing! I cannot even begin to imagine what things would look like had I continued this journey. There are always people willing to buy the goods you have to give.

Cons

The major con is a pretty obvious one: you have to deal with the perverts. Most of the time the only messages I received were dick pics or dudes trying to get a free sext session out of me. The biggest surprise came about a week in, when I had started posting on Reddit. Someone actually asked me if they could jerk off to a picture of my tits. I thought that was super sweet and flattering that he would ask first.

Another pretty obvious con is that so many people will bitch at you about not giving it away for free. That’s all. Just block them if they bitch you out, but a lot of the time once they know you’re a professional they will just go on their way. I had a few ‘thank you for the offer, maybe another time’, which is super thoughtful.

This profession takes a lot of personal upkeep of home and self. I found myself spending quite a bit of time and money on shaving and home decoration. You are giving people a fantasy. You need it to be the best it can be, especially when they’re paying for it. If you’re doing free shows, fuck it, but the paid stuff should be top quality.

Sex work and adult entertainment is a very over saturated market. That’s going to a be a problem with any career moving forward though. This planet is so overpopulated so there’s going to be hundreds, if not thousands, of people doing exactly what you are doing. If you do it, do it for fun and be pleasantly surprised, or do it so well you get noticed.

The last con is more of an inconvenience than a ‘con’, but either build up a lot of content or prepare for lulls. Some days you’re not going to want to do anything (like any job) so it’s good to have some content to post when that happens. Your fans will NOTICE if you don’t post.

Apps/Websites

There are a lot of applications and websites to use in the sex worker industry. I’ve gone ahead and listed all the ones that I used. I will let you know all the uses for said apps and sites, as well as which ones to avoid and why.

CashApp Logo

I reached out to a fellow sex worker/adult entertainer and asked her what her favorite apps to use were. She immediately suggested that I use the app CashApp to accept my funds from people and direct deposit for use on websites. She said to never use PayPal because they will put a hold on your account for ‘Adult Activity’ and you’ll never get your money.

Setting up a CashApp account is pretty easy. It’s basically like PayPal with less restrictions. Plus, they will send you a personalized debit card, that has your signature etched into the front. It looks very sleek and professional.

Snapchat Logo

The first app I knew I wanted to use was Snapchat. I had seen the term ‘Premium Snapchat’ thrown around like it was confetti. I did some digging and figured out how to set it up. The basics of setting up a premium Snapchat are: make a private Snapchat account. That’s it. From there you can have people DM you for details via Instagram, Twitter, etc, or you can use a website like Fancentro (see below).

When you get your DMs asking for access to your premium Snapchat, make sure the first thing you do is give them your CashApp handle. This is a business transaction. They are paying you for your services. Once they have sent you proof that they have paid, send them your Snapchat name. Never give away anything you’re not comfortable with for free. People will take advantage of that.

Snapchat was really fun. I only ever had one subscriber, but he was really nice. Only once did he get a little testy with the ‘lack of content’ I was putting up. Although, after talking to my friend, I realized he was just greedy, because I was putting up 4-5 things per day, whereas she maybe put up one thing per day. Other than that interaction, I really enjoyed myself. I knew my snaps were only going to one person, so I could have as much fun as I wanted without feeling overwhelmed.

Fancentro Logo

Fancentro is like the manager for your premium Snapchat. There, buyers can purchase different subscription tiers, and they get to see a little bit of content before they purchase. Fancentro is like your home base for different subscription services. You can offer private Snapchat, private Instagram, you can add your Amazon Wishlist, and other fun goodies for people to spoil you with. I highly recommend using Fancentro to organize your subscription services.

Twitter Logo

A really good way to promote yourself as an ‘Adult Entertainer’ or ‘Sex Worker’ is on Twitter. There are so many people to network and collaborate with. You can post all the raunchy stuff you want and you will most likely never get shut down or banned. This is a great platform for marketing your other paid sites.

Never use Instagram to promote your sex work. You will get your account taken down faster than you can say ‘Free the Nipple’.

ManyVids Logo

ManyVids is where the money is at. Put up enough porn and inevitably someone will buy it. I had a grand total of 6 videos, and in 2 weeks I got 2 sales. That doesn’t seem like a lot, but when I was full expecting to not sell anything, two sales was winning the lottery. If you are comfortable with filming yourself doing the nasty or playing with yourself, I highly recommend doing it and putting it up on this site.

Not only was it REALLY fun, but I learned to love my body so much more after watching the videos I posted. I would find myself watching and re-watching all of my own videos. The bonus to learning to love yourself while doing this kind of work, is you really start to turn yourself on. I don’t think there was a single moment in the two weeks I was doing this that I wasn’t sopping wet.

Reddit Logo

Reddit is so important, but it’s very tricky. I got the most interaction while promoting myself on Reddit, but I also got laughed at the most for wanting people to pay for my goods. You have to be very careful that people don’t abuse your position as a sex worker. Reddit is where the true perverts live.

OnlyFans Logo

OnlyFans is only ok at the moment. OnlyFans is a newer site so there isn’t as much traffic, but I have a feeling that will soon change. Their aesthetic is much more pleasing than ManyVids and the interface is much more simple. It reminds me of when Tumblr was still cool. There’s a bio, a feed, and that’s it. It’s very simple.

The main difference between this site and ManyVids, is that it’s subscription based. You can offer monthly or lifetime subscriptions, but there isn’t more you get. All subscriptions get the same content, just longer or shorter access. If you were to choose a site, I would do either this one or ManyVids. Having both was pretty redundant. OnlyFans is also a great place to permanently put your premium snaps.

Patreon Logo

Patreon is interesting because they really support the ‘artistic’ side of adult entertainment. Honestly, if you are an erotic model, I would only use Patreon. They have the ‘lens’ which basically acts as a Snapchat and you can still post exclusive porn to paying customers. You can be so much more creative with your subscription tiers and usually the subscribers are a lot more professional.

End

Overall, the cons were pretty much expected and the pros were a happy surprise. I could have never expected this outcome. I seriously thought I would come away from all of this hating myself and thinking I was so disgusting. That couldn’t be further from the truth. I loved almost every minute and I would probably do again if I had a little bit more patience.

I have a whole new respect for these wonderful people. They are so supportive of each other. If you know a sex worker, give them all your love and support. Fuck what anyone says. They are doing what they love, period. Treat them like human beings and pay for your porn!


Featured Image Credits: Atelier Victoria Catalina @hello_catalina