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About Last Night…

I have been married to an amazing person for almost 10 years. We are best friends, we tell each other everything, we’re open and honest, and we never let things fester. Lately, I had been having some pretty serious thoughts about our relationship. After a couple of weeks of mulling things over, I decided I had thought about it enough on my own and now it was time to sit down and discuss it.

I told him that I had been getting turned on by the idea of another person fucking me, him knowing, and getting turned on by that, or even joining in. I had learned a while ago that a lot of men actually have this fetish as well, so I was curious about his thoughts on all of it. I knew that we had discussed it being his fetish when we first got engaged, but I don’t remember much else around that time.

When we met, I was with an awful human being. This man was physically, mentally, emotionally, and sexually abusive. When I met my husband, he quickly became my best friend, and eventually helped me escape that relationship.

After I had left my ex, I had a lot of healing to do, both from him and from past sexual traumas. Apparently, for me to heal, I needed to block out certain chunks of time from around the end of that relationship, to about 6 months into my new one. I had no idea that I had done this, until my husband mentioned that we had actually started practicing this lifestyle, and apparently I had a part time girlfriend. We would would fool around while he was at work, and then at one point, we had a threesome…all for me.

It was like one of those movie moments. The camera pans in really fast on my eyes as they widen from some amazing realization. I FINALLY REMEMBERED! Like most moments in your life when you remember a lot of stuff all at once, I got very emotional. I realized that my past traumas had prevented me from just BEING for a large chunk of my life and I was remembering all the things my brain had allowed me to forget. It was rough.

I was suddenly remembering all of the trauma my ex had put me through, specifically sexually, and I hated him so much more. I allowed this piece of shit to ruin my self image. He took away my ability to love myself and to feel like I deserved to be loved. He put me in so many situations that I hated myself for and forced a lifestyle onto me that I wasn’t ready for. He knew this, but never cared. One of the major non-physical traumas that happened during our relationship was, for a whole week he was fucking 2 other people and telling me that he was at the hospital with his grandfather. I only learned about that one after I had left him, hence the continued need for healing for a few months after that relationship had ended.

After speeding through all THAT lovely imagery, I got to my current relationship, and all the blocked out chunks of time within it. I remembered all of our conversations about loving each other, the fact that his sex drive isn’t what I need sometimes, and that lack of jealousy isn’t lack of love. Being so young and having gone through all that shit when we got together, I didn’t quite understand why he was so OK with this. I was confused and I thought that him ‘not caring’ about me sleeping with other people for a fetish we had, meant that he’d be out sleeping with people too, all the while telling me that ‘it’s for the fantasy’, and making me believe that I was the one who was wrong and/or crazy.

That was never the case, and in fact, we were extremely hot and heavy during all of this. The only reason why we stopped being part of that lifestyle, was that we moved. It seemed like our move away, forced me to start healing. We never mentioned it again and all of our experiences fell away.

Fast forward to 2018 when I got into my massive car accident and everything changed. Like I’ve mentioned before and in my ‘About’ bio, I suddenly began to love myself again. Having a near death experience can do that. After the accident, we had found our fire again. I was no longer self conscious of my body, so I was extremely free to explore my new found sexuality.

A few months later I began to explore the world of sex work. I LOVED it. After I stopped, I actually missed it, and I started to wonder why. I figured out the reason was because I was being adored and lusted after by other people. That lust and adoration was directly linked to my amazing ‘IRL’ sex life. After I stopped being a sex worker, our sex life slowed down again. It wasn’t as bad as before the accident, but it was definitely noticeable. Since I DID remember that in the past he had mentioned this fetish to me, I decided to take a stab at doing some of my own research. Turns out that’s exactly what I wanted as well.

When we finally sat down to talk, things were amazing. We talked about communication, boundaries, fantasies, and rules. I thought he would be totally against the idea of even discussing it, but after the realization that I probably should have gone to more therapy, things just clicked. I remembered that in my sexual history I had had a grand total of 3 threesomes, and I loved every minute of it. I remember being the center of attention for most of those events and at that point I couldn’t keep my hands off of him. We spent the next hour having amazing sex (since all that talk of other people fucking me was basically hardcore foreplay) and over the next few days we would talk some more.

Now that things are all out in the open, we’re giving it some time. We’ve gone back to having amazing sex, pretty much any time we can, and in a few months we’re going to re-discuss this lifestyle (and possibly give it a try). We’ve done solo research and partnered research all to identify the exact relationship style we’d like to have, so that there is no questioning the rules and boundaries we will be setting.

The reason why I decided to tell you this story is to show you just how important communication and honesty are within ANY type of relationship. Whether that be casual, non monogamous, open, poly, etc, you need to talk. I told him about my ideas, he told me about his worries, and so on. We understand that talking and not letting things get bottled up is the only way that we can successfully explore our options and have a healthy relationship.

[If you need/want to talk about your own experiences please do not hesitate to email me or DM me on social media]

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Mimic + Plus by Clandestine Devices

The Mimic + Plus is a stunning toy. When you take off the lid of the box this thing sings (not literally, but you know, choir of angels and all that shit). The bright magenta toy was snuggled into its perfectly formed cradle covered in a protective plastic shield with a sticker that says ‘hygiene sealed’. It all makes my sex blogger heart flutter. Inside the little bottom area was the satin storage bag, the magnetic USB charge cable, and the super detailed instructions.

This thing is made of body safe silicone, is 100% waterproof, AND it has a travel lock so it doesn’t start vibrating in your bag, which is freaking amazing. There are 8 vibration patterns and 6 levels of intensity that range from a small flutter to sitting on a race car, while it’s driving. The bottom of the toy has a bright LED that dims when things get dark and dirty.

I love that it gives you a vibration guide. A lot, if not most, of the other toys I’ve seen with variable vibration patterns just sort of make you wing it (pun intended). It’s sort of nice to know what all of the patterns will do. You still need to play around with all of them to see which one you love the most, of course, but isn’t that the fun part??

Charging is…interesting. I have never had a toy that used a magnetic port before this one. The magnet on it seems a little weak. When I would connect the charger it kept falling off if I moved it ever so slightly. In the end I had to put the toy down, magnet side up, plug it in, and then not touch it at all until it was done charging. The magnetic charging toys I’ve had since never seemed to have a problem with magnet strength, so maybe the one I got was a little off.

I’m going to preface my actual experience breakdown with, I was not in a good place, mentally, the week that I tried this toy. I had been masturbating furiously, solo and with my partner, for almost 5 days, with no orgasm. We tried so many different things, from using all the toys in my toy box, to vanilla fingering, to oral, nothing was working. So by the time I actually had an orgasm with this toy, it was disappointing. Not because of the toy, but because the orgasm I did end up having was like a little bottle rocket, compared to the grand finale I usually have.

The first time I used it, it was like running a marathon. It took me over an hour, and three different positions, to find the right spot to get me to the finish line. I used it the way the toy seemed like it was meant to be used: cradled in my hand, wings facing up (when it was in position), with the smooth, rounded bump pressed against me. In this position, it had the thing I hate most about sex toys (at least for solo masturbation), precision. I am a wild masturbator. Precision does nothing for me, honestly. It’s amazing when I’m nearing my orgasm, as I tend to get a bit more focused on keeping whatever is making my toes curl, right where it is.

The next time I tried it, I flipped it over…nothing. The best way to describe what the toy looks like flipped over is it sort of looks like a bird with a really tiny beak, wings and everything. The precision on this side was even more accurate and I just ended up getting really frustrated. Also, with the wings pointed down, against my body, I couldn’t get enough pressure because the wings weren’t as flexible as I would have liked.

With a partner the Mimic + Plus is WONDERFUL! We never used it for partnered masturbation, but we did use is as a clit/vulva simulator during penetration. Having it wedged between our bodies was such an amazing feeling made everything feel amazing. Still, no luck in the big O department though. Using it like this actually made my partner last longer because the vibrations slightly numbed his penis and made everything a little less sensitive, so that was a bonus. The Mimic + Plus was definitely made for partnered use. I can see this being amazing as a grinder for 2 vulva having partners.

In the end, being in a not-so-great mental state, made the Mimic + Plus fun, but not entirely satisfying. The design and shape of the toy was not nearly as body inclusive as I would have liked, and the type of vibration that it gave off never quite worked for my solo experience. For partnered play, it was great.

I would recommend buying this toy for 2 reasons: (a) it’s stunning and crafted beautifully, and (b) partnered play was made so much better with it. If you are looking for that extra spark in the bedroom (or wherever you enjoy doing the nasty), this little thing is the answer.


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I was sent the Mimic + Plus for free in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!

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Cloud 9 Novelties Power Touch Wireless Bullet & Remote (+ C9N Water Based Lubricant)

This is the kind of toy that makes me love being a sex blogger. It’s the perfect size, shape, texture, and it does a great job of getting me off. I have used this thing almost everyday since receiving it. Mostly to try out all the fun vibration patterns, but also because holy hell does it give me powerful orgasms.

There was an incident with the first product I received. After a couple of (mildly hardcore) uses it stopped working. For some reason it wouldn’t turn on and it wouldn’t charge at all. The light was flickering whenever I plugged it in but it would never turn on. Either way, I emailed them and less than 12 hours later they had another toy in the mail on it’s way to me. I got it a few days later and this one has not had any problems so far. Their sales support team was amazing.

The Power Touch is made of super smooth, body safe silicone. It is fully waterproof so it is amazing for water play and is safe for squirters. With a full charge, play time can last up to an hour and a half, but from what I have experienced, you probably won’t last that long. Also, it is USB rechargeable, 3.25 inches long, and satisfyingly ergonomic.

The instructions recommend doing a full charge before your first use, and so do I. This thing is a bit of a battery suck, so you want to have as much fun time with it as possible. The first charge out of the box only takes about an hour which is no time at all. Some of the other toys I have received or purchased took up to 8 hours to fully charge!

When it’s charging the light on the back flashes. When it’s done it stops and stays on. The fun part is that when the toy is in use, the light does not just turn on or off. It dims and follows the vibration patterns. You can tell the strength of the vibe by how bright the LED is. It’s a really unique feature.

When you take it out of the package, it’s really weighty and smooth. I didn’t know that I needed weight in my sex toys, but I can tell you that I am never going back. The weight in this thing does half the work for me. Like I’ve said many times before, I’m a girl who loves a good clit smoosh, and the weight of the Power Touch makes that easier, so that my hand doesn’t get tired, at all!

The toy also comes with a wireless remote. It takes a standard watch battery and it is included. I haven’t found much use for the remote yet. The best thing I can foresee using it for is with a partner or for intense sessions. When you find the perfect spot but you need to change the vibration pattern, it can be a little annoying to have to fumble around for the button on the back. The remote removes the need to stop anything you’re doing and just enjoy yourself.

The Power Touch just goes and goes and goes. It starts with the basic buzz rumble of 3 intensities, then comes the fun part. After reviewing a few toys at this point, I don’t care much for the ‘special’ vibration patterns. I’m usually a lover of the old school deep buzz. This toy changed all that. I have had loads of fun or gotten off to every single vibration pattern that this thing offers. I am still shocked.

This thing is my new best friend. Those few days when I was waiting for a replacement were hell! I tried a few other toys but none of them came close to giving me the same, amazing orgasm that the Power Touch does. I highly recommend buying this toy! I will never not have a version of those toy in my toy box!!

If you wish to purchase the Power Touch go HERE!


I was sent the Cloud 9 Power Touch and Water Based Lube for free in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!


Bonus Mini Review – Cloud 9 Novelties Water Based Lube

This lube is…just ok. It says that its not greasy and doesn’t stain, but that is not entirely true. The glycerin that is in this makes the whole experience very…messy. Everything gets very slippery and not in a nice way. Also, it did stain my sheets a little bit, but it washed out fairly easy.

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CalExotics Rechargeable Massager Kit

There is a little bit of information I should share before getting started. I’d never had a wand, Magic or otherwise. My first experiences with sex toys were usually vibrator/bullet related. I grew up thinking that masturbation was silly and gross, so every time I walked into a Sharper Image and saw the ‘personal body massagers’ my first instinct was to giggle. Now, at almost 30 years old, this is my first wand (even thought its travel sized). After using this little guy I am really excited to try the ‘real thing’.

The interchangeable heads are made of body safe silicone, the body is made of phthalate free ABS plastic, and it is waterproof! The USB charging plug goes into a resealable charge hole and each 50 minute charge lasts 2.5 hours. There are 3 vibration modes ranging from ‘That’s Nice’ to ‘Hoooolyyyy Shiiiit!’. It has a flexible neck and it is 4 inches long, 1 inch wide, and the heads are anywhere from 1 to 2.25 inches.

There are 3 interchangeable heads. There is a ‘teasing nub tip’, a textured, tongue type thing, and rabbit. Each one is made of a silky smooth silicone. They are all super flexible and it is really easy to change each one. Plus, the basic, hard plastic head is also really fun to play with, so its like you are getting a bonus. There are pros and cons of each but I will tell you all about them in order of my favorites.

When I used this product, I used a water based lube for all uses, including use with the non silicone tip. That way I was safe from contamination if I decided to change heads mid sesh. Like I mentioned in my Uberlube post, if you need to use a silicone lube, always check the lube on a small spot on the toy before use, and wash it really well. If there are any changes to that spot, said toy is not compatible with that lube.

The first time I used it, I used it without any of the silicon heads. I just used the hard plastic tip, and it was really lovely. Perfect for a good ol’ clit smoosh. Got me off just fine. Something that is really nice about this little thing is that it’s not too complicated. There is only one button. You hold it down for 3 seconds to turn it on, and 3 seconds to turn it off. There aren’t any crazy vibration patterns, it simply has 3 different vibe speeds. That’s it.

I really don’t have any cons except maybe the size, which will be a pattern in this review. My biggest issue with these smaller toys is that the nice feeling bits are usually very precise. It can sometimes be difficult to keep it where I want it, especially at the higher vibration speeds, and when using a nice, slick lube. Also, the flexi head makes it a little tricky to keep pressure on spots because the more you press, the more it flexes.

The textured nub tip was really nice too. I used this one solo and with my partner. My partner had a fun time with the amount of squirming I did because of the textured bumps. Using it solo I had it positioned against my clit right on the edge of the flat side and the top. Doing it that way made the dots really focused and it was a wonderful feeling.

Again, the only negative was the size. This one didn’t have as bad of an issue as the next 2 because the silicone head made its width a bit larger than the rest. The wiggliness of the head still made it hard to find the perfect spot. I found myself concentrating too hard on the toy rather than the feeling that it gave me.

The tongue one was ok, but only once I found the spot I liked. It took me a long time to find it. It’s nice because it has 2 sides, smooth, and textured. The smooth side didn’t do much for me, but I know everyone has different tastes. I did get off, eventually, but I had to go to my tried and true ‘get off’ position of face down, ass up. This always seems to work.

The negatives are similar to above but a bit more extreme. Because the tongue flap is so bendy, it was hard to find a spot to hit that it didn’t just vibe away from being slippery from the lube. I have mentioned this before and I’ll mention it again, I love me a rumbly, extra firm, vibe. This head was neither. It was more of a flicking or buzzing sensation unless I pressed down really hard. If you have the patience, I would recommend using just the wiggly tip against your body. It’s a very light sensation, but, especially with a partner, it’s probably the best method of use.

Now, the bunny. This one will be hard to come up with positive for. I have never had a rabbit, so I did not know what to expect. What I learned was it was not my cup of tea. With a partner it was nice for foreplay and it got my clit crazy sensitive, but we had to eventually move on because I just got a bit bored. This head is definitely more of a tease toy. It’s great on the nipples and to run against the sensitive bits of your body, but I never got off with it, and I am not sure I ever will.

The major negatives about this head was that it was way too…exact. The only way it worked for me solo was really quick motions, which was hard to keep up with. It seemed like once I found a nice spot, I would jerk it a couple times then it would slip away.

In the end, would I recommend this, yes. It is great for use with a partner and fun for discreet play. Solo use is a little tricky, but I wouldn’t let that stop you because the vibration are really nice. I would definitely love to get my hands on a proper rabbit vibrator and a ‘real deal’ Magic Wand after using this. Like wands, rabbits are usually the go to for beginners, and I feel like I have missed out.

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Trusty Vibe (Blush Novelties B Yours – My First Bullet, Silver/Black)

I want to tell you about Blush Novelties B Yours – My First Bullet, Silver Power Bullet. First off, I really hate the name ‘bullet’ for anything, especially something that goes near my body. What they should call this thing is “Holy Fucking Shit Orgasm Pod”…or something.

My First Bullet is made of phthalate free ABS plastic, so it is slightly porous but it is non toxic. It has a 3 foot wire going to the battery pack, which takes 2 AAs. Having it wired, means there is more power than a one touch bullet or vibe. It is waterproof, so you can use it externally, or internally, and during water play.

The vibe has an adjustable dial that controls the speed of the vibrations, and let me tell you, this is not for sensitive people. It starts with a bang and only gets more intense. There is no ‘gentle’ setting on this beauty. It’s goal is to get you off, and oh wow does it!

The chrome vibe (egg, bullet, whatever you want to call it), is about 2 inches long and 1 inch wide. This thing is FUN. I have never not had a great time. I am a huge fan of vibes that just smash down on my clit. This does that plus some. The slick material makes it really fun to use with lube, and a really neat thing to do is to experiment with temperature. You can make the vibe hot or cold, and the sensation is WONDERFUL.

For masturbation, I love to get my grind on. I either put the vibe on a surface, pillow, etc and rub, or I’ll wedge it in my labia and wiggle my pelvis around. Something fun to do is once you have the vibe in place, take the remote and start pulsing the vibration strength by using the dial. Great stuff! Honestly, though, there aren’t many way NOT to get off with this vibe.

This baby is great for any gendered oral as well. You can use it on the base of a penis while you’re going to town, run it all around to tease it, be creative. For those with a vulva, your partner can use this internally, or just to tease your sensitive bits while they’re lickin the bean.

For use during sex, I like to hold it against my clit and run it against my partners penis during penetration. You can also use it internally, that way it also hits the head of the penis, which is really fun. It’s also great for grinding against your partner too. I imagine this would be a fun little toy to use for two vulva having partners. The great thing about this is you, or your partner, can use this on your entire body. I’m a huge fan of using it on my nipples during foreplay.

I’ve had this thing for at LEAST 3 years and it’s my second egg/bullet vibrator. I love how powerful it is. You also can’t beat the price. Cheap bullets cost around $8-$10 and nicer bullets will run you upwards of $50. I think I got this beauty for around $12. The fact that it has seen an inhumane amount of use in 3 years, and it’s still kicking, says a lot about its quality. This type of vibe will never not be in my collection of toys.

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I purchased this product with my own funds. If you wish to help me purchase more products to review head to my ‘Goodies‘ page. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!