What is this magic?! I can’t even begin to express to you the amount of shock that swept over my face the moment I climaxed from this toy. It happened (for me) in a flash. I went from ‘hmm…?’ to ‘hnng!’ in less than 5 minutes!! For those of you who have read my past posts on my orgasm, you know that is almost unheard of for me! I’m not sure if it was the toy, or the fact that I started taking CBD, but I am still shook!
The Noje is made of satin smooth ABS plastic with 2 platinum cured silicone attachments, one shaped like a bunny (creepy face and all) and one that looks like a weird alien tongue. It is USB rechargeable with a magnet and is waterproof for ‘bath time fun’. The vibrations are made in an oscillating motion to deliver precise stimulation. Using the super simple buttons, there are 7 different levels to choose from. There are no patterns with this one, but that’s not a feature I really care about (usually!).
The plain head, sans attachments, is the most amazing thing I’ve ever experienced. I honestly thought it would be overwhelming and/or painful but that wasn’t the case at ALL. The oscillating motions make the tip dance ever so lightly over my clit and the feather light vibrations gave me chills. Usually I need some amount of pressure on my clit to get those deep, rumbly vibrations, but I didn’t need that at all with the Quiver.
The bunny attachment is good for nipple stimulation and foreplay with a partner, or alone. I wasn’t able to get good clitoral stimulation from it, unfortunately. The silicone in the ears of the rabbit head don’t transfer the oscillating vibrations as well and I would have needed the deep, rumbly pressure to make this piece work. Either way, it was definitely fun to play with!
The ‘Tapper’ attachment is used for a lighter sensation. For me it was great as a clit stroker. Like the bunny attachment, the oscillating motions were harder to feel, but with the textured bumps and nubs, I was able to have a lot of fun with it.
The only negatives that I came across are that it ceases to vibrate when you put even a little bit too much pressure on the oscillating tip, and it’s a tad bit loud as certain points. I noticed it gets louder the lower the vibration speed but placing the tip against your body with the right amount of pressure gets rid of the sound.
Even if you hate pinpoint vibration and think that this toy will literally be the worst for you, please try it. That was exactly where I was when I received it. I had no idea how much pleasure the Quiver would bring me, but now it is in the ranks of my favorite toys. I love it so much.
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I was sent the Blush Noje Quiver for free by MedAmour in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!
Recently, some of you may have noticed me talking a lot about my ‘missing’ orgasms. It’s not like I don’t have them, they are just very hard to come by. It makes me sad, mad, frustrated, and sometimes a little crazy. My own personal mental and physical health issues are huge factors, I know this, but I can’t be alone. I need to know that I am not the only person who can’t cum within mere minutes of diddling.
My solo orgasm, with a toy, took approx 25 minutes. The average ‘aroused’ vulva having person takes about 20 minutes to orgasm, while the average penis having person only takes about 5 minutes. That is just the average. In reality, I’m with a partner that has a hard time lasting 5 minutes, and I last much longer than the ‘average’ 25 minutes. Not really a great mix. We’re definitely working on it all. With him we’ve tried cock rings and other methods, which seem to be working great, so don’t feel too bad.
Some (bio)logical reasons for my lack of orgasms or difficulty finding them could be my anti anxiety meds or my PCOS. It’s fairly common for anti anxiety meds to reduce libido so that could be something to explore. I am currently taking 40mg of Prozac every day, which isn’t the highest dosage but I take it alongside Buspirone. Prozac is one of the worst SSRIs for sexual drive, so there’s really no surprise there. I am actually going to start halving my dosage gradually to see how that affects everything. Unfortunately, it can take up to 2 months to start to see any changes.
With PCOS, my hormones are all sorts of fucked up so I’m sure that plays into it sometimes. Also, with PCOS, changes in libido are very common. Low testosterone levels usually lead to a low libido. On the other hand, like me, high testosterone issues lead to high libido, but it also leads to some other not-so-attractive issues. Besides libido, PCOS may be a factor in sensitivity and mental health problems surrounding the illness.
I’ve also found that a lot of my issues come from mental blocks. My ex was abusive as I have talked about many times. He used orgasms as a ‘punishment’ when he was upset. He ended up bruising my pelvic bone a few times with how rough he was with me. I ended up having to continuously fake my orgasms just to get him to stop. As a result, I didn’t have my first partnered orgasm until a couple months into my relationship with my husband. I was sick of lying about it and I told him that I had been faking. It wasn’t until a few days ago that I really understood why.
Within the last few days I have been diving deep into my past and traumas to maybe find something there. Yes, I was abused as a child, yes, I had an extremely abusive ex, but I never saw anything there to indicate why those events were affecting what was happening now, with the exception of the fact that I still have some insecurities about whether or not I ‘deserve’ to be worshiped and given orgasms, even solo.
Most of the time I feel like my partner is getting bored or is hurting his arm/legs/jaw in some way because it’s taking too long. He has REPEATEDLY told me this is not the case. He loves making me cum no matter how long it takes because he likes to think of it as a fun challenge. One of his favorite things is watching me get off and maybe that pressure doesn’t help. The idea that I can’t a lot of the time makes me feel so self conscious and frustrated. I feel like I’m letting both of us down. I’m a sex blogger for fucks sake. My job is to have orgasms.
I also found out a weird thing. Before my accident, when I hated my body, I was entirely able to have partnered orgasms and easy solo orgasms. Now, I love my body and it’s the hardest thing in the world. Maybe before I thought about my body so entirely that the other stuff never came to mind, and now I have nothing to distract myself from the possibility of being annoying.
As for solo orgasms, I feel like a major factor in my issues with those is the expectation of an orgasm. I cannot stop thinking about what will get me off versus what feels really good. I mean, it all feel amazing, but even when I’m just playing with myself, I get the anxiety thoughts of ‘this is taking too long, you’re not normal’.
I was reading another sex blog the other day and the author was saying that 10 minutes to orgasm was a long time and it was frustrating for her. While I do understand that every body and mind is different, I would KILL to have an orgasm in 10 minutes. This is definitely the type of stuff that I should not be focusing on, but most of the time I can’t help it when thoughts like this pop into my head.
My partner has been so supportive through all of this. His sex drive isn’t as high as mine so sometimes he doesn’t really mind, but he definitely sympathizes with how frustrating this is for me, someone who used to be a 2+ times per day masturbater. While I’m waiting to see if reducing my medication dosage makes things better, we’re still going to work on everything as if that isn’t going to help. Hopefully, eventually, I can focus of the moment instead of that huge pressure to have an orgasm.
Since sex drive, wetness, and most other things that go along with ‘sexual dysfunction’ are not an issue, we’ll continue on the path of toys. Since both of my jobs are all about sex toys, I have a plethora. Changing it up seems to help, but when I’m having a particularly rough couple of weeks, I like to stick to what I know. That way there are no surprises (good or bad). This helps me stay more focused because I know what that particular toy does for me.
When I am having problems for a long period of time, the thing that has worked for me is extreme distraction. I usually blast a fan and some music just to get my mind off of life. The fan is great white noise and the music I chose usually has really harsh beats that I can find a toy or finger rhythm to.
The most important thing that I can express to anyone who is reading this who is having issues is communicate. Whether that be to a partner, a doctor, a therapist, etc, just talk. Make sure the people who need to know (and should know) what is going on inside your head are kept in the loop. Also, of you’re considering going on or off medication ALWAYS talk to a doctor. These types of medications are no joke.