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The Best Sex Podcasts 2019

Podcasts are amazing. They can be educational, entertaining, or all of the above. Being a sex blog, I decided to share some of my favorite sex podcasts that you can find on almost all streaming platforms. I chose these based on the information they share, how entertaining they were to listen to, and the type of topics they discuss.

I focused on podcasts that had a broad spectrum of material and didn’t focus on anything too specific. There are so many wonderful kink, BDSM, polyamory, queer, female, etc, focused podcasts out there. Eventually I will be writing blog posts for all of those topics, but for now, I wanted to keep it simple.

The five podcasts I have listed below are in no particular order. That would have been WAY too complicated and I didn’t want you to go into this list with any preconceived notions that I had any favorites. They are all fantastic. If you have any questions or recommendations for podcasts we should add to this list, comment below or email me at thepinkspacelime@gmail.com.

Sluts and Scholars

Nicoletta Heidegger is a licensed MFT and sexologist and Simone is an actor-turned-law-student who really likes to talk about sex. Together, they chat with folks from across sexuality, kink and professional spectrums about desire, pleasure, shame, stigma and (of course) bodily functions.

With a combination of irreverence and expertise, we talk about any subject, even more sensitive ones, like HIV stigma and non-offending minor-attracted persons. What else is on the docket? Anything remotely related to sexual, reproductive and bodily autonomy; from the indigenous menstrual practices of the Hupa Valley tribe, to beauty confidence advice from Dita von Teese, anal sex pro tips from Jessica Drake, non-consensual objectification with Amber Heard and what it’s REALLY like being in a 24/7 BDSM relationship.

Sluts and Scholars is raw, funny, and educational. I have listened to almost every episode of this podcast in the last week. The hosts are so entertaining and passionate about everything they talk about. Their banter is wonderful and it always keeps the episode going. The guests are really professional and educated on the topics being discussed.

The newest episode (111) is SO powerful. They discuss the importance of acceptance of sexuality, sex workers, and sex education across the world, specifically on social media. This is such a hot button topic at the moment and they don’t hold back. You get to learn what their own experiences are with censorship, plus you get to hear from a couple of guests who have a wonderful perspective on this issue.

Find Sluts and Scholars on most podcast streaming platforms and make sure to follow them on social media!
Website: https://slutsscholars.libsyn.com/
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/slutsandscholars
Twitter: https://twitter.com/SlutsScholars
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/slutsandscholars/

The Manwhore Podcast

The Manwhore Podcast is hosted by stand up comedian, Billy Procida. The name speaks for itself, but this podcast is real provocative. The most recent episode features Dante Nero (227), and one of the top episodes of all time involves the host is literally getting a ‘happy ending’ massage during the episode (157). That one is particularly fun.

This is a sex podcast, so of course there’s gonna be some shit you don’t agree with. If you just keep listening, there are so many amazing episodes that deal with contemporary topics such as body positivity, sexual orientation, gender, sex workers, and sexual freedoms. This is a really great podcast to listen to if you want to keep up with the world of sex.

His Patreon has all sorts of fun NSFW content including bonus episodes, conversations, announcements, and some naughty nudes. He also hosts ManwhoreCon once a year and I am actually publishing this post one day after the event ends for 2019. ManwhoreCon is definitely on my list of events to attend in the future. Apparently it’s loads (punny) of fun.

Find The Manwhore Podcast on most podcast streaming platforms and make sure to follow Billy on social media!
Website: https://www.manwhorepod.com/
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/manwhorepodcast
Twitter: https://twitter.com/TheBillyProcida
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/billyisprocida/

Bawdy Storytelling

Bawdy Storytelling is a wild fucking ride! This podcast is hosted by Dixie De La Tour, a professional sexual folklorist and storyteller. This podcast has opened my eyes to new things. I’ve laughed and I’ve cried (mostly from laughing). Overall, this is a really unique podcast experience.

The title song ‘My Vagina is 8 Miles Wide’ by Storm Large is such a catchy song. It makes me smile, sing along, and prepares me for the journey that is this episodes story. Each week Dixie introduces the storyteller and then that person tells us a story. The most recent stories involve vaginismus (83) and polyamory (82).

The stories are told in such a way that truly make you see the situation. The amount of detail that is put into these performances is astounding. Sometimes they are told by professionals, and sometimes it’s just a regular ol’ person like you and me. There are so many secrets spilled and fetishes destigmatized. You will definitely connect with these stories, and if not, hey, you learned something new, maybe even about yourself.

Find Bawdy Storytelling on most podcast streaming platforms and make sure to follow the podcast on social media!
Website: https://bawdystorytelling.com/
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/Bawdy
Twitter: https://twitter.com/Bawdy
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bawdystorytelling/

Sex Talk With My Mom

This podcast was actually suggested to me by Billy from The Manwhore Podcast, and I am so happy he did! This podcast is fucking hilarious. Sex Talk with My Mom is hosted by KarenLee and her son Cam Poter. He is a stand up comedian and she is a sex educator and self proclaimed ‘cougar’.

I would have never thought that a SEX podcast with a dude and his mom would be so amazing. I love that the episodes aren’t too long either. I think the longest episodes are around 65 minutes, but those still go by really quick because these two are just hilarious.

This is more of a stories and comedy podcast. There’s not too much scientific talk, but it’s really fun to hear about everyone’s experiences with different sexual encounters. Sometimes they have professional/famous guests and sometimes it’s call in guests that are just regular people.

Find Sex Talk with My Mom on most podcast streaming platforms and make sure to follow the podcast on social media!
Website: http://www.sextalkwithmymom.com/
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/SexTalkWithMyMom
Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexTalkPodcast
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sextalkwithmymom/

Shameless Sex

Shameless Sex podcast is hosted by Amy Baldwin, a sex and relationship coach (among other amazing things), and April Lampert, the VP of Hot Octopuss pleasure toys. “Together, Amy and April combined forces to create the Shameless Sex Podcast, inspiring radical self-love, sexual empowerment, and shame-free intimacy. Shameless Sex is unabashed real talk about sexuality with a playful twist. From Pussy Praising to How to Be A Badass in the Bedroom, Amy and April are not afraid to tell it like it is.”(s)

This podcast delves into all types of topics and they deal with a lot more of the technical/scientific side of sexuality. They give you tips and tricks for making your sex life amazing and understanding and accepting your own sexuality. The hosts are funny, entertaining, and could seriously be my best friends.

This is a really great podcast to listen to while your at work. Not too many ‘laugh out loud’ moments, so you won’t get those weird looks as you might with the others on this list. This podcast is quite mellow so it’s really lovely to relax to.

Find Shameless Sex on most podcast streaming platforms and make sure to follow the podcast on social media!
Website: https://www.shamelesssex.com/
Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/shamelesssex
Twitter: https://twitter.com/shameless_sex
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/shamelesssexpodcast/

Runners Up

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About Last Night…

I have been married to an amazing person for almost 10 years. We are best friends, we tell each other everything, we’re open and honest, and we never let things fester. Lately, I had been having some pretty serious thoughts about our relationship. After a couple of weeks of mulling things over, I decided I had thought about it enough on my own and now it was time to sit down and discuss it.

I told him that I had been getting turned on by the idea of another person fucking me, him knowing, and getting turned on by that, or even joining in. I had learned a while ago that a lot of men actually have this fetish as well, so I was curious about his thoughts on all of it. I knew that we had discussed it being his fetish when we first got engaged, but I don’t remember much else around that time.

When we met, I was with an awful human being. This man was physically, mentally, emotionally, and sexually abusive. When I met my husband, he quickly became my best friend, and eventually helped me escape that relationship.

After I had left my ex, I had a lot of healing to do, both from him and from past sexual traumas. Apparently, for me to heal, I needed to block out certain chunks of time from around the end of that relationship, to about 6 months into my new one. I had no idea that I had done this, until my husband mentioned that we had actually started practicing this lifestyle, and apparently I had a part time girlfriend. We would would fool around while he was at work, and then at one point, we had a threesome…all for me.

It was like one of those movie moments. The camera pans in really fast on my eyes as they widen from some amazing realization. I FINALLY REMEMBERED! Like most moments in your life when you remember a lot of stuff all at once, I got very emotional. I realized that my past traumas had prevented me from just BEING for a large chunk of my life and I was remembering all the things my brain had allowed me to forget. It was rough.

I was suddenly remembering all of the trauma my ex had put me through, specifically sexually, and I hated him so much more. I allowed this piece of shit to ruin my self image. He took away my ability to love myself and to feel like I deserved to be loved. He put me in so many situations that I hated myself for and forced a lifestyle onto me that I wasn’t ready for. He knew this, but never cared. One of the major non-physical traumas that happened during our relationship was, for a whole week he was fucking 2 other people and telling me that he was at the hospital with his grandfather. I only learned about that one after I had left him, hence the continued need for healing for a few months after that relationship had ended.

After speeding through all THAT lovely imagery, I got to my current relationship, and all the blocked out chunks of time within it. I remembered all of our conversations about loving each other, the fact that his sex drive isn’t what I need sometimes, and that lack of jealousy isn’t lack of love. Being so young and having gone through all that shit when we got together, I didn’t quite understand why he was so OK with this. I was confused and I thought that him ‘not caring’ about me sleeping with other people for a fetish we had, meant that he’d be out sleeping with people too, all the while telling me that ‘it’s for the fantasy’, and making me believe that I was the one who was wrong and/or crazy.

That was never the case, and in fact, we were extremely hot and heavy during all of this. The only reason why we stopped being part of that lifestyle, was that we moved. It seemed like our move away, forced me to start healing. We never mentioned it again and all of our experiences fell away.

Fast forward to 2018 when I got into my massive car accident and everything changed. Like I’ve mentioned before and in my ‘About’ bio, I suddenly began to love myself again. Having a near death experience can do that. After the accident, we had found our fire again. I was no longer self conscious of my body, so I was extremely free to explore my new found sexuality.

A few months later I began to explore the world of sex work. I LOVED it. After I stopped, I actually missed it, and I started to wonder why. I figured out the reason was because I was being adored and lusted after by other people. That lust and adoration was directly linked to my amazing ‘IRL’ sex life. After I stopped being a sex worker, our sex life slowed down again. It wasn’t as bad as before the accident, but it was definitely noticeable. Since I DID remember that in the past he had mentioned this fetish to me, I decided to take a stab at doing some of my own research. Turns out that’s exactly what I wanted as well.

When we finally sat down to talk, things were amazing. We talked about communication, boundaries, fantasies, and rules. I thought he would be totally against the idea of even discussing it, but after the realization that I probably should have gone to more therapy, things just clicked. I remembered that in my sexual history I had had a grand total of 3 threesomes, and I loved every minute of it. I remember being the center of attention for most of those events and at that point I couldn’t keep my hands off of him. We spent the next hour having amazing sex (since all that talk of other people fucking me was basically hardcore foreplay) and over the next few days we would talk some more.

Now that things are all out in the open, we’re giving it some time. We’ve gone back to having amazing sex, pretty much any time we can, and in a few months we’re going to re-discuss this lifestyle (and possibly give it a try). We’ve done solo research and partnered research all to identify the exact relationship style we’d like to have, so that there is no questioning the rules and boundaries we will be setting.

The reason why I decided to tell you this story is to show you just how important communication and honesty are within ANY type of relationship. Whether that be casual, non monogamous, open, poly, etc, you need to talk. I told him about my ideas, he told me about his worries, and so on. We understand that talking and not letting things get bottled up is the only way that we can successfully explore our options and have a healthy relationship.

[If you need/want to talk about your own experiences please do not hesitate to email me or DM me on social media]

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My Two Weeks as a BBW Sex Worker

I never thought I would even consider being a sex worker. I had so many ideas of what sex workers did, looked like, felt about themselves, etc. All of my preconceived notions of sex work were 100% wrong. After completing this experiment I realized that sex work can be fun, lucrative, and an amazing self confidence booster. It’s the rest of the world that makes it out to be this dirty, immoral, thing. This is my experience as a BBW (Big Beautiful Womxn) sex worker.

Why Did I do this experiment?

The first reason why I decided to try sex work is to simply see if I could. Being a bigger woman, I was unsure of the need. I did my research and found that there are many, beautiful, full figured women in the sex worker industry. After thinking it through, and doing so much research, I decided why not, and jumped in.

I really wanted to experience what these wonderful people go through. Now I only did it for 2 weeks, so I probably didn’t get the full experience, but I loved it. No wonder people do this!! I was worried my self confidence would be shit, or I would get nothing but nasty comments, but that didn’t happen, much to my surprise.

Pros

One of the most surprising things that came from all of this was my self confidence boost. Before I started this experiment, my self confidence was growing every day, but this shot it to 11 within 48 hours. I’m still not too sure why this happened, but I loved it.

Speaking of self confidence, the sex life with my partner was reignited to the extreme. I used to hate my body. I would be so self conscious about any sort of intimacy. Now I don’t give a fuck. I love my rolls, my marks, my hair, etc. I sincerely love myself and the way I look. Making that mental change within myself made our physical relationship so much stronger.

I honestly got so many less nasty comments than I thought I would get. The nastiest comments I got were about my lack of content, not my actual content. If you’re worried about people being blatantly mean and cruel about your appearance, don’t. It didn’t happen. I’m sure the professionals get their fair share, but I feel like they love themselves too much to care about one salty perv.

The most surprising ‘pro’ is that I made a few sales! I only had a few videos but I sold 2 and had one Premium Snapchat subscriber. This was just in 2 weeks. That’s amazing! I cannot even begin to imagine what things would look like had I continued this journey. There are always people willing to buy the goods you have to give.

Cons

The major con is a pretty obvious one: you have to deal with the perverts. Most of the time the only messages I received were dick pics or dudes trying to get a free sext session out of me. The biggest surprise came about a week in, when I had started posting on Reddit. Someone actually asked me if they could jerk off to a picture of my tits. I thought that was super sweet and flattering that he would ask first.

Another pretty obvious con is that so many people will bitch at you about not giving it away for free. That’s all. Just block them if they bitch you out, but a lot of the time once they know you’re a professional they will just go on their way. I had a few ‘thank you for the offer, maybe another time’, which is super thoughtful.

This profession takes a lot of personal upkeep of home and self. I found myself spending quite a bit of time and money on shaving and home decoration. You are giving people a fantasy. You need it to be the best it can be, especially when they’re paying for it. If you’re doing free shows, fuck it, but the paid stuff should be top quality.

Sex work and adult entertainment is a very over saturated market. That’s going to a be a problem with any career moving forward though. This planet is so overpopulated so there’s going to be hundreds, if not thousands, of people doing exactly what you are doing. If you do it, do it for fun and be pleasantly surprised, or do it so well you get noticed.

The last con is more of an inconvenience than a ‘con’, but either build up a lot of content or prepare for lulls. Some days you’re not going to want to do anything (like any job) so it’s good to have some content to post when that happens. Your fans will NOTICE if you don’t post.

Apps/Websites

There are a lot of applications and websites to use in the sex worker industry. I’ve gone ahead and listed all the ones that I used. I will let you know all the uses for said apps and sites, as well as which ones to avoid and why.

CashApp Logo

I reached out to a fellow sex worker/adult entertainer and asked her what her favorite apps to use were. She immediately suggested that I use the app CashApp to accept my funds from people and direct deposit for use on websites. She said to never use PayPal because they will put a hold on your account for ‘Adult Activity’ and you’ll never get your money.

Setting up a CashApp account is pretty easy. It’s basically like PayPal with less restrictions. Plus, they will send you a personalized debit card, that has your signature etched into the front. It looks very sleek and professional.

Snapchat Logo

The first app I knew I wanted to use was Snapchat. I had seen the term ‘Premium Snapchat’ thrown around like it was confetti. I did some digging and figured out how to set it up. The basics of setting up a premium Snapchat are: make a private Snapchat account. That’s it. From there you can have people DM you for details via Instagram, Twitter, etc, or you can use a website like Fancentro (see below).

When you get your DMs asking for access to your premium Snapchat, make sure the first thing you do is give them your CashApp handle. This is a business transaction. They are paying you for your services. Once they have sent you proof that they have paid, send them your Snapchat name. Never give away anything you’re not comfortable with for free. People will take advantage of that.

Snapchat was really fun. I only ever had one subscriber, but he was really nice. Only once did he get a little testy with the ‘lack of content’ I was putting up. Although, after talking to my friend, I realized he was just greedy, because I was putting up 4-5 things per day, whereas she maybe put up one thing per day. Other than that interaction, I really enjoyed myself. I knew my snaps were only going to one person, so I could have as much fun as I wanted without feeling overwhelmed.

Fancentro Logo

Fancentro is like the manager for your premium Snapchat. There, buyers can purchase different subscription tiers, and they get to see a little bit of content before they purchase. Fancentro is like your home base for different subscription services. You can offer private Snapchat, private Instagram, you can add your Amazon Wishlist, and other fun goodies for people to spoil you with. I highly recommend using Fancentro to organize your subscription services.

Twitter Logo

A really good way to promote yourself as an ‘Adult Entertainer’ or ‘Sex Worker’ is on Twitter. There are so many people to network and collaborate with. You can post all the raunchy stuff you want and you will most likely never get shut down or banned. This is a great platform for marketing your other paid sites.

Never use Instagram to promote your sex work. You will get your account taken down faster than you can say ‘Free the Nipple’.

ManyVids Logo

ManyVids is where the money is at. Put up enough porn and inevitably someone will buy it. I had a grand total of 6 videos, and in 2 weeks I got 2 sales. That doesn’t seem like a lot, but when I was full expecting to not sell anything, two sales was winning the lottery. If you are comfortable with filming yourself doing the nasty or playing with yourself, I highly recommend doing it and putting it up on this site.

Not only was it REALLY fun, but I learned to love my body so much more after watching the videos I posted. I would find myself watching and re-watching all of my own videos. The bonus to learning to love yourself while doing this kind of work, is you really start to turn yourself on. I don’t think there was a single moment in the two weeks I was doing this that I wasn’t sopping wet.

Reddit Logo

Reddit is so important, but it’s very tricky. I got the most interaction while promoting myself on Reddit, but I also got laughed at the most for wanting people to pay for my goods. You have to be very careful that people don’t abuse your position as a sex worker. Reddit is where the true perverts live.

OnlyFans Logo

OnlyFans is only ok at the moment. OnlyFans is a newer site so there isn’t as much traffic, but I have a feeling that will soon change. Their aesthetic is much more pleasing than ManyVids and the interface is much more simple. It reminds me of when Tumblr was still cool. There’s a bio, a feed, and that’s it. It’s very simple.

The main difference between this site and ManyVids, is that it’s subscription based. You can offer monthly or lifetime subscriptions, but there isn’t more you get. All subscriptions get the same content, just longer or shorter access. If you were to choose a site, I would do either this one or ManyVids. Having both was pretty redundant. OnlyFans is also a great place to permanently put your premium snaps.

Patreon Logo

Patreon is interesting because they really support the ‘artistic’ side of adult entertainment. Honestly, if you are an erotic model, I would only use Patreon. They have the ‘lens’ which basically acts as a Snapchat and you can still post exclusive porn to paying customers. You can be so much more creative with your subscription tiers and usually the subscribers are a lot more professional.

End

Overall, the cons were pretty much expected and the pros were a happy surprise. I could have never expected this outcome. I seriously thought I would come away from all of this hating myself and thinking I was so disgusting. That couldn’t be further from the truth. I loved almost every minute and I would probably do again if I had a little bit more patience.

I have a whole new respect for these wonderful people. They are so supportive of each other. If you know a sex worker, give them all your love and support. Fuck what anyone says. They are doing what they love, period. Treat them like human beings and pay for your porn!


Featured Image Credits: Atelier Victoria Catalina @hello_catalina