This is one of the topics that I, unfortunately, know nothing about. Because of that, I reached out to fellow sex bloggers for the information. I was super grateful to @kelvinsparks_ for helping me out on this one!
So, put simply, a strap-on is a combination of a toy used for penetration (usually a dildo), and a harness to keep it attached to one person’s body. Strap-ons have existed for thousands of years- there’s evidence of them existing in Ancient Greece, and even as far back as the Upper Paleolithic. While they’ve historically had a reputation for being a toy exclusively for cisgender lesbians, strap-ons can be used by people of all genders, bodies, and sexual orientations for any number of reasons.
Anyone can wear a strap-on, and you can use a strap-on to penetrate a partner of any gender with any kind of body. You can use a strap-on for vaginal penetration, anal penetration, oral penetration, or even for manual sex. Plenty of cis straight men enjoy being anally penetrated by a cis female partner wearing a strap-on, transmasculine people of all orientations may enjoy using a strap-on for gender euphoria reasons, cisgender men may enjoy wearing one to offset difficulties with erectile dysfunction or to have double-penetrative sex, and transfeminine people may enjoy wearing one as a way to have penetrative sex without interacting directly with their genitals, or to offset the difficulties with erectile dysfunction that oestrogen hormone replacement therapy can cause.
A strap-on consists of two parts- the harness and the dildo- and while you can get “kits” that include both, it’s useful to discuss each separately. The dildo has a flared based, and the harness typically has an O shaped ring that the dildo can be threaded through.
Harness come in three general styles- three strap/jockstrap, two strap/thong, and underwear style harnesses. The three strap/jockstrap has loops around the waist and each leg, which allows for a lot of customisation of fit, leaves the wearer exposed for additional stimulation, and provides a lot of control. A two strap/thong style harness has one loop around the waist and one between the legs. While it doesn’t leave the wearer exposed some people enjoy the stimulation from the middle strap, and two strap harnesses still provide a reasonable amount of control. Finally, underwear style harnesses are designed to fit like a pair of normal underwear, and available in boxer brief styles or more feminine styles. They are easier to put on, as they’re strap free, but offer less support, so are less suited to larger or heavier dildos.
There are of course other styles of harness, such as boot harnesses, thigh harnesses, hand harnesses, or even harness masks. To make sure a harness fits properly, check both the size of your waist and hips, and the minimum and maximum diameter that the harness’ O-ring can accommodate. Some harnesses do have swappable O-rings, but either way you want the toy to fit in snugly without moving around.
When getting a dildo for your first strap-on, the best measurement to look at is girth, not length. The partner being penetrated doesn’t have to take the whole length of the dildo, but they will have to take the girth. You’ll lose a bit of the length from just wearing it in a harness, and having some excess length to play with will make positioning and thrusting easier to figure out. Fingers are a good way to figure out sizing- can the partner being penetrated comfortable take one, two, or three fingers? A whole fist? The diameter of however many they can comfortably take is a good indicator of the diameter of the right dildo for you. Make sure that the dildo diameter and base fit into your harness O-ring, and make sure that your dildo is made from a body safe material like silicone.
First things first, I’m not here to tell you what squirting is. A few minutes on Google will bring up so many websites that will tell you, in way more detail, what squirting is and different ways to do it. I am simply going to tell you about my life as a squirter and what that means, for me.
I’ve always been able to squirt and, to me, being a squirter means making a huge mess. I’ve gone back and forth on whether or not it’s actually pee (which it totally isn’t…I think), I’ve been worshiped for it, and mocked for it. Needless to say, I have a mixed history with with squirting. I also feel like I squirt…weird. Almost every single website about ‘how to squirt’ makes it seem like it’s only a g-spot thing. That isn’t the case with me. I ONLY squirt from clitoral orgasms.
I recently posted a blog about my lack of orgasm. I am still (sort of) unsure about why I have such a hard time. I deduced that mental illness and medications may be mostly to blame, but I didn’t want that to just be the end of it. I kept experimenting and really trying to understand my body more. After a few weeks of that, I had the realization that sometimes I lose my orgasm because am a squirter. Not in the ‘I’ve squirted a little a few times’ kind of way, but in the way that, for me, is actually sort of embarrassing. I make a huge mess and knowing that prevents me from fully letting go.
I’ve only squirted with a couple of my partners (mostly because I was faking almost all my orgasms from go to 20, but that’s a story for another time). The first time I squirted in front of someone and not just by myself, the look on their face was pure joy. I still don’t understand why since it’s so normal for me and I had seen it so many times in porn. I thought ‘isn’t this what everyone does?’. Oh boy was I wrong. I got an ear full after that.
Unfortunately, I learned that being a squirter isn’t always such a magical thing. At one point I squirted so hard there was HUGE spot of the bed covered in it. I was so surprised at the amount that I texted my boyfriend at the time with a photo. His response was “I hope you’re cleaning that up…”, which he meant as a joke, but I did not take it that way. I was so insecure about the fact that it happens that I didn’t do it again for months. I felt disgusting.
While that definitely left me with some scarring, I bounced back fairly quickly on the orgasm front. I learned new ways to have orgasms that didn’t involve squirting and, even though it was definitely difficult to control something that comes naturally to me, I managed, until recently.
Ever since I figured that out, and become ok with it, I’ve been able to have way more orgasms. Yes, I mess up the sheets almost every time I come, but I don’t always have that mental wall blocking me. If you need to squirt, fucking squirt. While some people may not like it (I suggest mentioning it before you get freaky with someone), anyone who makes you feel like shit about it doesn’t deserve your come all over them.
My advice to anyone who wants to squirt is experiment with yourself, let yourself go, and invest in some amazing clean up towels, which I will be doing a review for later on. There is more than one way to squirt and you need to find your way, and if you can’t, don’t worry, not everyone can. The hardest part about accepting this about myself is that it needs to happen. If I don’t squirt once in a while, my body literally starts rejecting my orgasms. It’s great…
The Le Wand was sent to me by MedAmour to try and review. I am so glad they did! I had never had a ‘real’ wand before receiving it, so to be able to try this magnificent creature was such a gift. At first glance my overall impression of this thing was ‘YIKES’. That remained my opinion until my second use. This thing is a monster. It’s big and bulky, but a beautiful take on the classic ‘Magic Wand’.
The Le Wand has 10 speeds and 20 patterns! That is a whole lot of usage from one toy. This thing has a flexible, silicone head which moves with your body. It is cordless, rechargeable with use in about 3 hours, and splash proof, which means you can wash it thoroughly, but don’t use it in the bathtub. Also, even though this beast is so huge, it’s surprisingly travel friendly. It has a lock and everything. Maybe don’t bring it in a carry on, but definitely pack it in your main suitcase.
Like I said, I said ‘Yikes’ the first time I saw this, turned it on, and used it. The first time I played with it I was so intimidated. It’s very heavy, it’s huge, and it’s REALLY loud. This thing sounds like a lawn mower or an electric scooter. There’s a reason why I call it ‘monster’ and ‘beast’. The head is 2.45 inches, the whole thing is over 13 inches long, and it weighs approximately 3.1 LBS. Not a gentle creature.
Besides the size, weight, and loudness, there aren’t that many negatives about the Le Wand. It’s like the BDSM of vibrators. It hurts so good. Since it’s heavy, it is somewhat painful to hold for extended periods of time. Plus, since the motor is so powerful, not only can it numb your clit in a matter of seconds, but it can also be ripped out of your hands due to the force of the vibrations.
Another pretty major negative, for me, was the size of the silicone head. The thing has a diameter of 2.45 inches. That’s a lot of stuff to squeeze between my larger lips. It would be great if I could be one of those people who could just sit on the thing and let it work, but alas, I am not. With it’s size, I had to spread and smoosh to get it to vibrate anything other than my fat lady bits.
The second time I used it, and after realizing that there are things like the Liberator Wanda to hold it for me, I actually had a grand old time. I found that the buzziness of the wand wasn’t nearly as intense on my clit when I used a good amount of lube. Yes, as per usual, it took me about 30 minutes to finally get off, but hey, the fact that I got off at all was an accomplishment. I honestly thought this would be too much for me, but it turned out great!
Another thing is that it is AMAZING as a body massager. It’s WONDERFUL. I have a lot of tension in my back and shoulders from being an artist, so this thing comes out all the time to work out my knots. I get why this was the popular vibrator of choice back in the day. It’s so multi functional!
As much as I have come to love this wand, I would love to try it’s baby sibling, the Le Wand Petite. I feel like overall, it would be a better toy for me and my every day life. The Le Wand though, is an immediate classic. It’s beautiful, sleek, and powerful. Definitely not for masturbatory beginners, but I would go so far as to say that it’s a must have in any bedroom for all it’s various other uses.
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I was sent the Le Wand Original for free by MedAmour in exchange for my honest review. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!
Question: How can I introduce toys into the bedroom?
Introducing toys in the bedroom can be a daunting experience, but it doesn’t have to be! Sex toys are fun, sexy, and the perfect way to try new things. Communication and honesty are key when trying anything new with a partner. There is no reason to fear a sex toy. Just make sure both parties are comfortable (and the toys in question are body safe!!).
Read what other sexperts have to say below!!
Toys can be such a fun way to enhance your sexual experience, solo or with a partner. If your partner is a little hesitant to try them, I recommend starting with a little bit of research – online and offline!
One way to gauge your partner’s interest in a particular toy is to periodically show them photos of toys that interest you. You can say, “This looks cool! Would you ever try something like this?” Or you can tell them specifically what you like about a toy: “I love the shape of this dildo” or “The silicone looks like it would feel so nice!” Sometimes I bookmark articles about toys I’d like to try and when our online conversation gets a little naughty, I’ll send him a link to a toy review and let him know how I’d like to use it on him or myself. Putting it in context allows your partner’s imagination to run wild.
A fun, flirty, and dirty date can be a shopping trip to find a toy to use together! I’ve found that trips to my local shop are educational in two ways. Browsing together inspires conversation and provides you with a safe, sex-positive space to explore. Many shops have a playful vibe and laughter can often inspire connection and help you drop your guard. You can also get help from the shop’s salesperson and learn about how to use a harness or perhaps what impact toys are best for beginning use. Have the salesperson show you how a vibrator works or which lubes they like. It’s all inspiration for when you get home…
Introducing something new into the bedroom can be a bit scary for some of us. Asking for what we desire makes us vulnerable. But as long as you and your partner are willing to communicate and negotiate, introducing toys into the bedroom can be a light-hearted, hot as fuck way to connect.
I get this question A LOT in my DMs. Everyone has their own backgrounds and experiences that shape their perspectives on sexuality and sexual expression. Some people are comfortable with the idea of exploring sex toys, and others are not. (It’s totally fine either way!) That said, if you are someone who is wanting to use sex toys with a partner, there are a few tips I have that can assist you in those conversations.
The #1 thing that I am going to recommend is just talking to your partner. This seems like an obvious one, but sometimes when people get nervous they forget the basics. Tell your partner about your fantasies involving toys. It isn’t always super easy discussing your desires and sexual wants, but it is important. Your needs matter. Your feelings matter. Your pleasure matters. Letting your partner know that you care about their feelings, but also letting them know where your head is at is super healthy and wonderful.
One of the next things I typically recommend for incorporating toys (after discussing it with your partner) is mutual masturbation. We’ve all heard of doing a sexy striptease, but have you heard of mutual masturbation? Think of it as your own private cam show. Often times, sex is rushed and the goal is to get to an orgasm suuuper fast. We don’t allow ourselves to connect in with our partners and see what their body is doing while they orgasm. Masturbating together gives you that opportunity. I can’t think of a single person who after seeing their partner getting themselves off thinks “wow. I feel like I am going to be replaced by their hands..” No. The thought is “Woah. That was hot. How can I recreate that? How can I give my partner that kind of pleasure?!”. (The answer is sex toys.)
From both professional and personal experience, I feel that often times the discomfort with the idea of sex toys comes from a place of fear. There is a common misconception that sex toys will “replace” a partner. For anyone who may be feeling this way, I have good news for you: In all the years I have been selling sex toys, I have never heard of anyone being replaced by a toy. In my personal opinion, if a relationship were to be ended by someone using a sex toy, the couple probably had some other deeper issues going on that they may not have been addressing. Either way, communication is key. Go have fun! Try something new! Access. That. Pleasure. Reach new heights and have some orgasms together 🙂
Recently, some of you may have noticed me talking a lot about my ‘missing’ orgasms. It’s not like I don’t have them, they are just very hard to come by. It makes me sad, mad, frustrated, and sometimes a little crazy. My own personal mental and physical health issues are huge factors, I know this, but I can’t be alone. I need to know that I am not the only person who can’t cum within mere minutes of diddling.
My solo orgasm, with a toy, took approx 25 minutes. The average ‘aroused’ vulva having person takes about 20 minutes to orgasm, while the average penis having person only takes about 5 minutes. That is just the average. In reality, I’m with a partner that has a hard time lasting 5 minutes, and I last much longer than the ‘average’ 25 minutes. Not really a great mix. We’re definitely working on it all. With him we’ve tried cock rings and other methods, which seem to be working great, so don’t feel too bad.
Some (bio)logical reasons for my lack of orgasms or difficulty finding them could be my anti anxiety meds or my PCOS. It’s fairly common for anti anxiety meds to reduce libido so that could be something to explore. I am currently taking 40mg of Prozac every day, which isn’t the highest dosage but I take it alongside Buspirone. Prozac is one of the worst SSRIs for sexual drive, so there’s really no surprise there. I am actually going to start halving my dosage gradually to see how that affects everything. Unfortunately, it can take up to 2 months to start to see any changes.
With PCOS, my hormones are all sorts of fucked up so I’m sure that plays into it sometimes. Also, with PCOS, changes in libido are very common. Low testosterone levels usually lead to a low libido. On the other hand, like me, high testosterone issues lead to high libido, but it also leads to some other not-so-attractive issues. Besides libido, PCOS may be a factor in sensitivity and mental health problems surrounding the illness.
I’ve also found that a lot of my issues come from mental blocks. My ex was abusive as I have talked about many times. He used orgasms as a ‘punishment’ when he was upset. He ended up bruising my pelvic bone a few times with how rough he was with me. I ended up having to continuously fake my orgasms just to get him to stop. As a result, I didn’t have my first partnered orgasm until a couple months into my relationship with my husband. I was sick of lying about it and I told him that I had been faking. It wasn’t until a few days ago that I really understood why.
Within the last few days I have been diving deep into my past and traumas to maybe find something there. Yes, I was abused as a child, yes, I had an extremely abusive ex, but I never saw anything there to indicate why those events were affecting what was happening now, with the exception of the fact that I still have some insecurities about whether or not I ‘deserve’ to be worshiped and given orgasms, even solo.
Most of the time I feel like my partner is getting bored or is hurting his arm/legs/jaw in some way because it’s taking too long. He has REPEATEDLY told me this is not the case. He loves making me cum no matter how long it takes because he likes to think of it as a fun challenge. One of his favorite things is watching me get off and maybe that pressure doesn’t help. The idea that I can’t a lot of the time makes me feel so self conscious and frustrated. I feel like I’m letting both of us down. I’m a sex blogger for fucks sake. My job is to have orgasms.
I also found out a weird thing. Before my accident, when I hated my body, I was entirely able to have partnered orgasms and easy solo orgasms. Now, I love my body and it’s the hardest thing in the world. Maybe before I thought about my body so entirely that the other stuff never came to mind, and now I have nothing to distract myself from the possibility of being annoying.
As for solo orgasms, I feel like a major factor in my issues with those is the expectation of an orgasm. I cannot stop thinking about what will get me off versus what feels really good. I mean, it all feel amazing, but even when I’m just playing with myself, I get the anxiety thoughts of ‘this is taking too long, you’re not normal’.
I was reading another sex blog the other day and the author was saying that 10 minutes to orgasm was a long time and it was frustrating for her. While I do understand that every body and mind is different, I would KILL to have an orgasm in 10 minutes. This is definitely the type of stuff that I should not be focusing on, but most of the time I can’t help it when thoughts like this pop into my head.
My partner has been so supportive through all of this. His sex drive isn’t as high as mine so sometimes he doesn’t really mind, but he definitely sympathizes with how frustrating this is for me, someone who used to be a 2+ times per day masturbater. While I’m waiting to see if reducing my medication dosage makes things better, we’re still going to work on everything as if that isn’t going to help. Hopefully, eventually, I can focus of the moment instead of that huge pressure to have an orgasm.
Since sex drive, wetness, and most other things that go along with ‘sexual dysfunction’ are not an issue, we’ll continue on the path of toys. Since both of my jobs are all about sex toys, I have a plethora. Changing it up seems to help, but when I’m having a particularly rough couple of weeks, I like to stick to what I know. That way there are no surprises (good or bad). This helps me stay more focused because I know what that particular toy does for me.
When I am having problems for a long period of time, the thing that has worked for me is extreme distraction. I usually blast a fan and some music just to get my mind off of life. The fan is great white noise and the music I chose usually has really harsh beats that I can find a toy or finger rhythm to.
The most important thing that I can express to anyone who is reading this who is having issues is communicate. Whether that be to a partner, a doctor, a therapist, etc, just talk. Make sure the people who need to know (and should know) what is going on inside your head are kept in the loop. Also, of you’re considering going on or off medication ALWAYS talk to a doctor. These types of medications are no joke.
Hey everyone! This is a super short update and announcement blog. Not only have I started up body positive modeling (YAY) but I also got a part time retail job at an amazing adult shop!! My life is officially FULL of amazing sex related things. I am so fucking happy!!
A major announcement that I wanted to tell you is that I am starting an advice thread/column/post called ‘Between the Sheets’! Once a month (or more) I’m going to be posting a Q’s that ya’ll have sent to me via email, social media, etc, and I will be answering them all. Sex, toys, relationships, kinks, lions tigers, bears, etc, nothing is off the table with this. Ask away. I will also have guest educators on the blog who can elaborate and for questions that I cannot confidently answer alone.
If you want to send in a question or volunteer to be a guest, please email me at email@example.com. You can DM me on social media but I cannot promise to read everything that comes through there. The first ‘Between the Sheets’ will be posted on September 5th!
To keep up with my goings on be sure to follow me on Twitter @pinkspacelime and as always if you are interested in working with me, having me review your products, have a toy suggestion, or anything else, contact me here!
Podcasts are amazing. They can be educational, entertaining, or all of the above. Being a sex blog, I decided to share some of my favorite sex podcasts that you can find on almost all streaming platforms. I chose these based on the information they share, how entertaining they were to listen to, and the type of topics they discuss.
I focused on podcasts that had a broad spectrum of material and didn’t focus on anything too specific. There are so many wonderful kink, BDSM, polyamory, queer, female, etc, focused podcasts out there. Eventually I will be writing blog posts for all of those topics, but for now, I wanted to keep it simple.
The five podcasts I have listed below are in no particular order. That would have been WAY too complicated and I didn’t want you to go into this list with any preconceived notions that I had any favorites. They are all fantastic. If you have any questions or recommendations for podcasts we should add to this list, comment below or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Sluts and Scholars
Nicoletta Heidegger is a licensed MFT and sexologist and Simone is an actor-turned-law-student who really likes to talk about sex. Together, they chat with folks from across sexuality, kink and professional spectrums about desire, pleasure, shame, stigma and (of course) bodily functions.
With a combination of irreverence and expertise, we talk about any subject, even more sensitive ones, like HIV stigma and non-offending minor-attracted persons. What else is on the docket? Anything remotely related to sexual, reproductive and bodily autonomy; from the indigenous menstrual practices of the Hupa Valley tribe, to beauty confidence advice from Dita von Teese, anal sex pro tips from Jessica Drake, non-consensual objectification with Amber Heard and what it’s REALLY like being in a 24/7 BDSM relationship.
Sluts and Scholars is raw, funny, and educational. I have listened to almost every episode of this podcast in the last week. The hosts are so entertaining and passionate about everything they talk about. Their banter is wonderful and it always keeps the episode going. The guests are really professional and educated on the topics being discussed.
The newest episode (111) is SO powerful. They discuss the importance of acceptance of sexuality, sex workers, and sex education across the world, specifically on social media. This is such a hot button topic at the moment and they don’t hold back. You get to learn what their own experiences are with censorship, plus you get to hear from a couple of guests who have a wonderful perspective on this issue.
The Manwhore Podcast is hosted by stand up comedian, Billy Procida. The name speaks for itself, but this podcast is real provocative. The most recent episode features Dante Nero (227), and one of the top episodes of all time involves the host is literally getting a ‘happy ending’ massage during the episode (157). That one is particularly fun.
This is a sex podcast, so of course there’s gonna be some shit you don’t agree with. If you just keep listening, there are so many amazing episodes that deal with contemporary topics such as body positivity, sexual orientation, gender, sex workers, and sexual freedoms. This is a really great podcast to listen to if you want to keep up with the world of sex.
His Patreon has all sorts of fun NSFW content including bonus episodes, conversations, announcements, and some naughty nudes. He also hosts ManwhoreCon once a year and I am actually publishing this post one day after the event ends for 2019. ManwhoreCon is definitely on my list of events to attend in the future. Apparently it’s loads (punny) of fun.
Bawdy Storytelling is a wild fucking ride! This podcast is hosted by Dixie De La Tour, a professional sexual folklorist and storyteller. This podcast has opened my eyes to new things. I’ve laughed and I’ve cried (mostly from laughing). Overall, this is a really unique podcast experience.
The title song ‘My Vagina is 8 Miles Wide’ by Storm Large is such a catchy song. It makes me smile, sing along, and prepares me for the journey that is this episodes story. Each week Dixie introduces the storyteller and then that person tells us a story. The most recent stories involve vaginismus (83) and polyamory (82).
The stories are told in such a way that truly make you see the situation. The amount of detail that is put into these performances is astounding. Sometimes they are told by professionals, and sometimes it’s just a regular ol’ person like you and me. There are so many secrets spilled and fetishes destigmatized. You will definitely connect with these stories, and if not, hey, you learned something new, maybe even about yourself.
This podcast was actually suggested to me by Billy from The Manwhore Podcast, and I am so happy he did! This podcast is fucking hilarious. Sex Talk with My Mom is hosted by KarenLee and her son Cam Poter. He is a stand up comedian and she is a sex educator and self proclaimed ‘cougar’.
I would have never thought that a SEX podcast with a dude and his mom would be so amazing. I love that the episodes aren’t too long either. I think the longest episodes are around 65 minutes, but those still go by really quick because these two are just hilarious.
This is more of a stories and comedy podcast. There’s not too much scientific talk, but it’s really fun to hear about everyone’s experiences with different sexual encounters. Sometimes they have professional/famous guests and sometimes it’s call in guests that are just regular people.
Shameless Sex podcast is hosted by Amy Baldwin, a sex and relationship coach (among other amazing things), and April Lampert, the VP of Hot Octopuss pleasure toys. “Together, Amy and April combined forces to create the Shameless Sex Podcast, inspiring radical self-love, sexual empowerment, and shame-free intimacy. Shameless Sex is unabashed real talk about sexuality with a playful twist. From Pussy Praising to How to Be A Badass in the Bedroom, Amy and April are not afraid to tell it like it is.”(s)
This podcast delves into all types of topics and they deal with a lot more of the technical/scientific side of sexuality. They give you tips and tricks for making your sex life amazing and understanding and accepting your own sexuality. The hosts are funny, entertaining, and could seriously be my best friends.
This is a really great podcast to listen to while your at work. Not too many ‘laugh out loud’ moments, so you won’t get those weird looks as you might with the others on this list. This podcast is quite mellow so it’s really lovely to relax to.
I was 100% going to post a different blog today, but I could not stop thinking about how amazing these are. I don’t know if it’s just the fact that I’ve never tried butt plugs before or what, but I am obsessed. Solo play was phenomenal, so I wanted to wait to write a full review until I had used them for both solo and partnered play. Fast forward a few hours later, I couldn’t wait any longer, and we had a LOT of fun. My partner had no idea what he was in for when fell for me. *evil smirk*
The first thing that I will say is that these are so fucking cute. These (and the ones with the tail) are the ones I was desperate to try, simply for the fun I have looking at them, and Blush Novelties was kind enough to send them to me, plus some other goodies. They had other colors, but just like a cheese pizza at a pizza shop, you have to try the basics before you get fancy. I’m also a sucker for anything black and silver!
This is a really great kit for beginners to anal play. I am not a beginner, but I am definitely not an expert by any means. The 3 sizes are perfect for training your body and figuring out what you enjoy (the most important part!). They are made of a super smooth satin silicone, with no phthalates, fragrance, paraffin, or latex. The flared, heart shaped, base makes them fit securely against your body so you can have the best possible experience. Use them with any water based lube for a grand ol’ time!
I felt like freaking Goldilocks trying these. The small one was too small, the large one was too large, and the medium one was JUST right. Having dabbled in anal play before, my bum was used to foreign objects. I had to make sure the size was big enough for me to actually feel, but not too big to irritate the sensitive area around the anus. I’ve had some issues in the past, and I didn’t quite feel like reliving those particular memories.
Putting the plug in by myself was surprisingly easy. I thought I would have a lot more hesitation, but that ended up not being the case. The small, rounded tip eased me into it (or it into me), and the gradual build up of size felt wonderful. There was a little bit of an issue with the heart shaped base though. When you’re not used to it, and something happens to where the plug rotates inside you, the pointy end of the heart is a very uncomfortable thing to have poking into you. Add to the fact that basically my entire butt was lubed up (you can never use too much lube for anal), I was slipping and sliding in a panic to try and alleviate the situation. Very unpleasant.
The small plug has an insertable length of 2.6 inches, a circumference of 3 inches, and a width of 1 inch.
The medium plug has an insertable length of 2.8 inches, a circumference of 3.25 inches, and a width of 1.4 inches.
The large plug has an insertable length of 3.2 inches, a circumference of 3.75 inches, and a width of 1.75 inches.
Now to the good part…
I need to write this now while I’m still in the afterglow of what just fucking happened. I have never had a butt plug before, like I said. I have tried anal with small, thin toys, and I’ve done anal with my partners penis, but never have I had a toy that was specifically made for anal pleasure. And pleasure these do.
I just had the most intense edging session of my life with the medium plug and my Power Touch. The pressure, the fullness, it drove me wild. By the time I came I was panting hard, my whole body was sweaty, and afterwards, I couldn’t move for a solid 60 seconds. That never happens from just the run of the mill masturbation. I am still in shock.
The second time around was with my partner. Being the second use of the medium plug in a day, admittedly I was a bit sore, but nothing could stop me at this point. I lubed it up and stuck it in. During penetration, it felt BETTER! I couldn’t believe it, and neither could he. After we were done, he was just as shocked as I was. According to him, the plug was pressing against the top of his penis (we were fucking doggy style), and making him hit places inside me that he didn’t know existed.
Don’t roll your eyes too much. Before a year ago, we were a very vanilla couple. Leave it up to a near death experience to bring out your inner sex freak.
And now if you’ll excuse me, I need to rest my bum for a couple days…
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I want to tell you about Blush Novelties B Yours – My First Bullet, Silver Power Bullet. First off, I really hate the name ‘bullet’ for anything, especially something that goes near my body. What they should call this thing is “Holy Fucking Shit Orgasm Pod”…or something.
My First Bullet is made of phthalate free ABS plastic, so it is slightly porous but it is non toxic. It has a 3 foot wire going to the battery pack, which takes 2 AAs. Having it wired, means there is more power than a one touch bullet or vibe. It is waterproof, so you can use it externally, or internally, and during water play.
The vibe has an adjustable dial that controls the speed of the vibrations, and let me tell you, this is not for sensitive people. It starts with a bang and only gets more intense. There is no ‘gentle’ setting on this beauty. It’s goal is to get you off, and oh wow does it!
The chrome vibe (egg, bullet, whatever you want to call it), is about 2 inches long and 1 inch wide. This thing is FUN. I have never not had a great time. I am a huge fan of vibes that just smash down on my clit. This does that plus some. The slick material makes it really fun to use with lube, and a really neat thing to do is to experiment with temperature. You can make the vibe hot or cold, and the sensation is WONDERFUL.
For masturbation, I love to get my grind on. I either put the vibe on a surface, pillow, etc and rub, or I’ll wedge it in my labia and wiggle my pelvis around. Something fun to do is once you have the vibe in place, take the remote and start pulsing the vibration strength by using the dial. Great stuff! Honestly, though, there aren’t many way NOT to get off with this vibe.
This baby is great for any gendered oral as well. You can use it on the base of a penis while you’re going to town, run it all around to tease it, be creative. For those with a vulva, your partner can use this internally, or just to tease your sensitive bits while they’re lickin the bean.
For use during sex, I like to hold it against my clit and run it against my partners penis during penetration. You can also use it internally, that way it also hits the head of the penis, which is really fun. It’s also great for grinding against your partner too. I imagine this would be a fun little toy to use for two vulva having partners. The great thing about this is you, or your partner, can use this on your entire body. I’m a huge fan of using it on my nipples during foreplay.
I’ve had this thing for at LEAST 3 years and it’s my second egg/bullet vibrator. I love how powerful it is. You also can’t beat the price. Cheap bullets cost around $8-$10 and nicer bullets will run you upwards of $50. I think I got this beauty for around $12. The fact that it has seen an inhumane amount of use in 3 years, and it’s still kicking, says a lot about its quality. This type of vibe will never not be in my collection of toys.
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Good Clean Love Almost Naked Organic Personal Lubricant is only the third or fourth lubricant that I have tried in my life, but it is by far my favorite. It feels great, smells amazing, and tastes like candy. I will be going over my experience and some pros and (almost no) cons.
When I went to the store to look for my next lube, I had no idea what I was looking for. I thought I would just pick up some trusty AstroGlide, or something similar that I had tried in the past, but recently, my household has become more organic and natural, so when I saw the bright green tube, it definitely caught my eye. Low and behold, a clean sex product! I was thrilled. I read all the ingredients, looked up some reviews online, and threw it in my basket.
As soon as I got home, I opened it up. Now, I’m used to chemical lubes that are mostly clear, so when I squeezed some out to inspect, I was startled to see that it had a brownish hue. This is because of the organic, non-decolorized aloe. A lot of company take the color out, but Good Clean Love wants to make sure you are getting the most natural product you can.*
Besides the color, the first thing I noticed was the smell. It wasn’t too strong, but it was wonderfully sweet. I had never experienced that in a lube before (unless you count the various fake fruit flavored kinds that one usually receives as a gag gift). Me being curious I took a taste. It was amazing. Don’t judge me too hard. I knew, before eating it, that it was 100% edible, flavored with lemon and vanilla (and vegan/cruelty free…BONUS!).
After the first use, I was hooked. It felt great going on, while in use it was long lasting, and the sensitive tissue, in and around my vagina, wasn’t irritated! Whenever I would use chemical lubes, too much friction or penetration would almost cause my nether bits to start burning. That’s never a sexy feeling.
The only negative that I can give this product, is that if it’s exposed to air for too long, it has a tendency to dry out quickly. Not so fun when you’re giving your (penis having) partner and handy. Fortunately, there was a super easy fix: water. As soon as I got my hand wet, the lube was brought back to life with extra vigor. This make me believe that use in the shower will be extra fun. Also, this lube doesn’t wash off very easily with just water, so you could have loads of fun.
This was the first lube that I have ever wanted to use. Usually lube is just a necessity for toys or abnormally dry stints, but this one was going to be a staple in my everyday sex life. It made me feel like a woman down there, and an added benefit of this product is that it actually works with your body to naturally product lubrication. After one use, I noticed that I wasn’t dry as often as I was before.
I highly recommend this product! If you don’t want to buy the large amount to start, most sexual wellness shops have the sample/travel sizes available.
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*I was contacted by Good Clean Love and given the right information. Before, I couldn’t find any place that explained the color, but I knew xanthan gum has a gold hue, so I originally stated that being the reason. They sent me a very nice message and explained exactly why their product is a light brown color, and I have updated this review accordingly.