I’ve been waiting for this toy forever! It was actually one of the first toys I was sent, but because of a mix up in my apartments office, I didn’t get it until last week! Ugh! Before I knew I was getting this toy, I had never had a butt plug, but because of the mix up I ended up trying others first which sucks. I would have loved this plug to be my first.
The Tantus Perfect Plug is amazing for beginners! It’s made out of an ultra premium, body safe silicone and it’s only a single finger width wide (.75 in at widest point), so if you’re new to the world of butt plugs, this little thing should be ‘perfect’. Also, the base is slim instead of round, so it fits beautifully between your cheeks. That was a major upset for me when I tried my first plugs. They were heart shaped and hard, so I had a really tough time getting used to them.
This plug is also wonderfully long compared to other butt plugs. With an insertable length of 3.5 inches, I was easily able to insert it without any weird contortion like I had to do with my first set. The fact that I have a bit of anal training already made this thing super fun. It went in effortlessly and the bumps were super nice.
Wearing it around was so exhilarating. Whenever my hips would sway a little too much and my butt would jiggle, that’s when I could feel it the best. The slim base was so comfortable and sometimes I forgot I was wearing it….until I tried to sit down. That was an adventure. I’m still not used to wearing plugs anywhere besides the bedroom, so doing menial tasks around the house was interesting.
During penetration it was also pretty fun. My partner said that it definitely felt different but that it didn’t make my vagina nearly as tight as the other, more bulbous ones. For me, it felt best lying on my back versus doggy style since it was pinned between the bed and my partners penis with each thrust.
Overall, an amazing starter toy. It is the perfect width and length for beginners. Use with your favorite water based lube and you’re good to go!
Hey everyone! This is a super short update and announcement blog. Not only have I started up body positive modeling (YAY) but I also got a part time retail job at an amazing adult shop!! My life is officially FULL of amazing sex related things. I am so fucking happy!!
A major announcement that I wanted to tell you is that I am starting an advice thread/column/post called ‘Between the Sheets’! Once a month (or more) I’m going to be posting a Q’s that ya’ll have sent to me via email, social media, etc, and I will be answering them all. Sex, toys, relationships, kinks, lions tigers, bears, etc, nothing is off the table with this. Ask away. I will also have guest educators on the blog who can elaborate and for questions that I cannot confidently answer alone.
If you want to send in a question or volunteer to be a guest, please email me at email@example.com. You can DM me on social media but I cannot promise to read everything that comes through there. The first ‘Between the Sheets’ will be posted on September 5th!
To keep up with my goings on be sure to follow me on Twitter @pinkspacelime and as always if you are interested in working with me, having me review your products, have a toy suggestion, or anything else, contact me here!
Podcasts are amazing. They can be educational, entertaining, or all of the above. Being a sex blog, I decided to share some of my favorite sex podcasts that you can find on almost all streaming platforms. I chose these based on the information they share, how entertaining they were to listen to, and the type of topics they discuss.
I focused on podcasts that had a broad spectrum of material and didn’t focus on anything too specific. There are so many wonderful kink, BDSM, polyamory, queer, female, etc, focused podcasts out there. Eventually I will be writing blog posts for all of those topics, but for now, I wanted to keep it simple.
The five podcasts I have listed below are in no particular order. That would have been WAY too complicated and I didn’t want you to go into this list with any preconceived notions that I had any favorites. They are all fantastic. If you have any questions or recommendations for podcasts we should add to this list, comment below or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Sluts and Scholars
Nicoletta Heidegger is a licensed MFT and sexologist and Simone is an actor-turned-law-student who really likes to talk about sex. Together, they chat with folks from across sexuality, kink and professional spectrums about desire, pleasure, shame, stigma and (of course) bodily functions.
With a combination of irreverence and expertise, we talk about any subject, even more sensitive ones, like HIV stigma and non-offending minor-attracted persons. What else is on the docket? Anything remotely related to sexual, reproductive and bodily autonomy; from the indigenous menstrual practices of the Hupa Valley tribe, to beauty confidence advice from Dita von Teese, anal sex pro tips from Jessica Drake, non-consensual objectification with Amber Heard and what it’s REALLY like being in a 24/7 BDSM relationship.
Sluts and Scholars is raw, funny, and educational. I have listened to almost every episode of this podcast in the last week. The hosts are so entertaining and passionate about everything they talk about. Their banter is wonderful and it always keeps the episode going. The guests are really professional and educated on the topics being discussed.
The newest episode (111) is SO powerful. They discuss the importance of acceptance of sexuality, sex workers, and sex education across the world, specifically on social media. This is such a hot button topic at the moment and they don’t hold back. You get to learn what their own experiences are with censorship, plus you get to hear from a couple of guests who have a wonderful perspective on this issue.
The Manwhore Podcast is hosted by stand up comedian, Billy Procida. The name speaks for itself, but this podcast is real provocative. The most recent episode features Dante Nero (227), and one of the top episodes of all time involves the host is literally getting a ‘happy ending’ massage during the episode (157). That one is particularly fun.
This is a sex podcast, so of course there’s gonna be some shit you don’t agree with. If you just keep listening, there are so many amazing episodes that deal with contemporary topics such as body positivity, sexual orientation, gender, sex workers, and sexual freedoms. This is a really great podcast to listen to if you want to keep up with the world of sex.
His Patreon has all sorts of fun NSFW content including bonus episodes, conversations, announcements, and some naughty nudes. He also hosts ManwhoreCon once a year and I am actually publishing this post one day after the event ends for 2019. ManwhoreCon is definitely on my list of events to attend in the future. Apparently it’s loads (punny) of fun.
Bawdy Storytelling is a wild fucking ride! This podcast is hosted by Dixie De La Tour, a professional sexual folklorist and storyteller. This podcast has opened my eyes to new things. I’ve laughed and I’ve cried (mostly from laughing). Overall, this is a really unique podcast experience.
The title song ‘My Vagina is 8 Miles Wide’ by Storm Large is such a catchy song. It makes me smile, sing along, and prepares me for the journey that is this episodes story. Each week Dixie introduces the storyteller and then that person tells us a story. The most recent stories involve vaginismus (83) and polyamory (82).
The stories are told in such a way that truly make you see the situation. The amount of detail that is put into these performances is astounding. Sometimes they are told by professionals, and sometimes it’s just a regular ol’ person like you and me. There are so many secrets spilled and fetishes destigmatized. You will definitely connect with these stories, and if not, hey, you learned something new, maybe even about yourself.
This podcast was actually suggested to me by Billy from The Manwhore Podcast, and I am so happy he did! This podcast is fucking hilarious. Sex Talk with My Mom is hosted by KarenLee and her son Cam Poter. He is a stand up comedian and she is a sex educator and self proclaimed ‘cougar’.
I would have never thought that a SEX podcast with a dude and his mom would be so amazing. I love that the episodes aren’t too long either. I think the longest episodes are around 65 minutes, but those still go by really quick because these two are just hilarious.
This is more of a stories and comedy podcast. There’s not too much scientific talk, but it’s really fun to hear about everyone’s experiences with different sexual encounters. Sometimes they have professional/famous guests and sometimes it’s call in guests that are just regular people.
Shameless Sex podcast is hosted by Amy Baldwin, a sex and relationship coach (among other amazing things), and April Lampert, the VP of Hot Octopuss pleasure toys. “Together, Amy and April combined forces to create the Shameless Sex Podcast, inspiring radical self-love, sexual empowerment, and shame-free intimacy. Shameless Sex is unabashed real talk about sexuality with a playful twist. From Pussy Praising to How to Be A Badass in the Bedroom, Amy and April are not afraid to tell it like it is.”(s)
This podcast delves into all types of topics and they deal with a lot more of the technical/scientific side of sexuality. They give you tips and tricks for making your sex life amazing and understanding and accepting your own sexuality. The hosts are funny, entertaining, and could seriously be my best friends.
This is a really great podcast to listen to while your at work. Not too many ‘laugh out loud’ moments, so you won’t get those weird looks as you might with the others on this list. This podcast is quite mellow so it’s really lovely to relax to.
Uberlube is very, very fun! I finally got a sample from Lovers the other day I just couldn’t wait to try it. I have heard so many amazing reviews about this stuff, and they are all SPOT ON. This product is not just for sex, oh no. This is a multi purpose serum and it is magical.
Uberlube is 100% vegan, cruelty free, with no parabens, gluten, glycerin, flavors, or scents. It is made up of Dimethicone, Dimethiconol, Cyclomethicone, and Tocopheryl Acetate (aka Vitamin E). An awesome bonus is that it is registered medical quality.
Uberlube’s intended uses are for sex (obviously), sport, and style. What?! Sport and style?? How do I use this for those things?? Keep reading to find out!
Uberlube is silicone based, so use with toys is tricky, but not impossible. Silicone toys can have a bad interaction with silicone based lubes and can start breaking down. You can test how your toy will react by doing a test swatch. Put the lube on a very small area of your toy, leave it for a couple minutes, then wash it off really good. After you wash it off, if your toy has any discolorations, odd textures, or is sticky, don’t use that lube with that particular toy.
This stuff is amazing. It is like the ‘Energizer Bunny’ of lubes. It keeps going, and going, and going, and going, and…well you get the picture. The consistency of this lube is wonderful. It’s not sticky at all, but it’s also not too runny (see pictures below). If we continue on the path of metaphors, one might call the it, the ‘Goldilocks’ of the lube world…*wink*
Uberlube is great for sex in any capacity. The first thing that I tried was some old school finger masturbation. Using this lube was mind blowing to say the least. I think I had the quickest, most powerful orgasm I’d had in months, if not years. The goal of Uberlube is reduce friction, not sensation. That is exactly what it did. Good Goddess this stuff is fucking brilliant. I am hoping to try it on some non silicone toys in the near future, so stay tuned!
The next thing to be tried using Uberlube was penetration, of all kinds. Whatever type of penetration you enjoy, be it fingers or penis into a vagina or butt, you will LOVE this stuff. My partner and I had the best anal sex we’d had in a while. This stuff doesn’t give up and you feel everything! It is wonderful. Like I said before, I haven’t tried this with any toys, but I’m under the assumption that use of this lube with any said toy will be extremely pleasurable. No matter what, though, always try all your lubes on your toys before use, just to be safe.
Also, for those of you that practice safe sex with condoms, first, good for you, second, this lube is condom friendly. Since this is an silicon based lube, it is perfect for use with all latex and polyisoprene condoms. The only condoms I would worry about is polyurethane, although I’m not to sure many brands use that material anymore. Side note: If you use oil based lubes, those are NOT latex friendly.
Like I mentioned in the beginning of this post, Uberlube is wonderful for more than just sex. This stuff works wonders for sports, all types of athletic activity, or just everyday wear. It is water proof, sweat proof, and it lasts for hours. Rub it on your thighs, or anywhere, for chafe protection, or for a dash of moisture with the vitamin E. The best part is that it doesn’t leave you feeling greasy and it will eventually dissolve so you’re not left with a gross residue. As a plus sized woman, this stuff is a lifesaver for my chub rub!
Now for the fun and unexpected part, using Uberlube for ‘Style’. When I read that salons, and other people, use Uberlube for their hair, I was very skeptical, until I used it. Let me tell you, this stuff is amazing! My hair is fried from years of bleaching and box dying, but with just a couple of drops, none of that mattered. My hair was left soft and frizz free. Also, since Uberlube is oil free, your hair doesn’t feel nasty or heavy.
Uberlube comes in 15ml refillable cases, which is perfect for travelling. You can also get it in 100ml and 50ml. Whatever you use it for, or wherever you need to bring it, you’ll be sure to find what you need. Plus, the glass bottle looks really nice and sleek.
If you want to buy Uberlube go to your nearest sex shop, seriously. This shit is everywhere. But, if you do your shopping online, check out these stores:
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I purchased this product with my own funds. If you wish to help me purchase more products to review head to my ‘Goodies‘ page. If you wish for me to review one or more of your products, contact me! I would love to hear from you!
I never thought I would even consider being a sex worker. I had so many ideas of what sex workers did, looked like, felt about themselves, etc. All of my preconceived notions of sex work were 100% wrong. After completing this experiment I realized that sex work can be fun, lucrative, and an amazing self confidence booster. It’s the rest of the world that makes it out to be this dirty, immoral, thing. This is my experience as a BBW (Big Beautiful Womxn) sex worker.
Why Did I do this experiment?
The first reason why I decided to try sex work is to simply see if I could. Being a bigger woman, I was unsure of the need. I did my research and found that there are many, beautiful, full figured women in the sex worker industry. After thinking it through, and doing so much research, I decided why not, and jumped in.
I really wanted to experience what these wonderful people go through. Now I only did it for 2 weeks, so I probably didn’t get the full experience, but I loved it. No wonder people do this!! I was worried my self confidence would be shit, or I would get nothing but nasty comments, but that didn’t happen, much to my surprise.
One of the most surprising things that came from all of this was my self confidence boost. Before I started this experiment, my self confidence was growing every day, but this shot it to 11 within 48 hours. I’m still not too sure why this happened, but I loved it.
Speaking of self confidence, the sex life with my partner was reignited to the extreme. I used to hate my body. I would be so self conscious about any sort of intimacy. Now I don’t give a fuck. I love my rolls, my marks, my hair, etc. I sincerely love myself and the way I look. Making that mental change within myself made our physical relationship so much stronger.
I honestly got so many less nasty comments than I thought I would get. The nastiest comments I got were about my lack of content, not my actual content. If you’re worried about people being blatantly mean and cruel about your appearance, don’t. It didn’t happen. I’m sure the professionals get their fair share, but I feel like they love themselves too much to care about one salty perv.
The most surprising ‘pro’ is that I made a few sales! I only had a few videos but I sold 2 and had one Premium Snapchat subscriber. This was just in 2 weeks. That’s amazing! I cannot even begin to imagine what things would look like had I continued this journey. There are always people willing to buy the goods you have to give.
The major con is a pretty obvious one: you have to deal with the perverts. Most of the time the only messages I received were dick pics or dudes trying to get a free sext session out of me. The biggest surprise came about a week in, when I had started posting on Reddit. Someone actually asked me if they could jerk off to a picture of my tits. I thought that was super sweet and flattering that he would ask first.
Another pretty obvious con is that so many people will bitch at you about not giving it away for free. That’s all. Just block them if they bitch you out, but a lot of the time once they know you’re a professional they will just go on their way. I had a few ‘thank you for the offer, maybe another time’, which is super thoughtful.
This profession takes a lot of personal upkeep of home and self. I found myself spending quite a bit of time and money on shaving and home decoration. You are giving people a fantasy. You need it to be the best it can be, especially when they’re paying for it. If you’re doing free shows, fuck it, but the paid stuff should be top quality.
Sex work and adult entertainment is a very over saturated market. That’s going to a be a problem with any career moving forward though. This planet is so overpopulated so there’s going to be hundreds, if not thousands, of people doing exactly what you are doing. If you do it, do it for fun and be pleasantly surprised, or do it so well you get noticed.
The last con is more of an inconvenience than a ‘con’, but either build up a lot of content or prepare for lulls. Some days you’re not going to want to do anything (like any job) so it’s good to have some content to post when that happens. Your fans will NOTICE if you don’t post.
There are a lot of applications and websites to use in the sex worker industry. I’ve gone ahead and listed all the ones that I used. I will let you know all the uses for said apps and sites, as well as which ones to avoid and why.
I reached out to a fellow sex worker/adult entertainer and asked her what her favorite apps to use were. She immediately suggested that I use the app CashApp to accept my funds from people and direct deposit for use on websites. She said to never use PayPal because they will put a hold on your account for ‘Adult Activity’ and you’ll never get your money.
Setting up a CashApp account is pretty easy. It’s basically like PayPal with less restrictions. Plus, they will send you a personalized debit card, that has your signature etched into the front. It looks very sleek and professional.
The first app I knew I wanted to use was Snapchat. I had seen the term ‘Premium Snapchat’ thrown around like it was confetti. I did some digging and figured out how to set it up. The basics of setting up a premium Snapchat are: make a private Snapchat account. That’s it. From there you can have people DM you for details via Instagram, Twitter, etc, or you can use a website like Fancentro (see below).
When you get your DMs asking for access to your premium Snapchat, make sure the first thing you do is give them your CashApp handle. This is a business transaction. They are paying you for your services. Once they have sent you proof that they have paid, send them your Snapchat name. Never give away anything you’re not comfortable with for free. People will take advantage of that.
Snapchat was really fun. I only ever had one subscriber, but he was really nice. Only once did he get a little testy with the ‘lack of content’ I was putting up. Although, after talking to my friend, I realized he was just greedy, because I was putting up 4-5 things per day, whereas she maybe put up one thing per day. Other than that interaction, I really enjoyed myself. I knew my snaps were only going to one person, so I could have as much fun as I wanted without feeling overwhelmed.
Fancentro is like the manager for your premium Snapchat. There, buyers can purchase different subscription tiers, and they get to see a little bit of content before they purchase. Fancentro is like your home base for different subscription services. You can offer private Snapchat, private Instagram, you can add your Amazon Wishlist, and other fun goodies for people to spoil you with. I highly recommend using Fancentro to organize your subscription services.
A really good way to promote yourself as an ‘Adult Entertainer’ or ‘Sex Worker’ is on Twitter. There are so many people to network and collaborate with. You can post all the raunchy stuff you want and you will most likely never get shut down or banned. This is a great platform for marketing your other paid sites.
Never use Instagram to promote your sex work. You will get your account taken down faster than you can say ‘Free the Nipple’.
ManyVids is where the money is at. Put up enough porn and inevitably someone will buy it. I had a grand total of 6 videos, and in 2 weeks I got 2 sales. That doesn’t seem like a lot, but when I was full expecting to not sell anything, two sales was winning the lottery. If you are comfortable with filming yourself doing the nasty or playing with yourself, I highly recommend doing it and putting it up on this site.
Not only was it REALLY fun, but I learned to love my body so much more after watching the videos I posted. I would find myself watching and re-watching all of my own videos. The bonus to learning to love yourself while doing this kind of work, is you really start to turn yourself on. I don’t think there was a single moment in the two weeks I was doing this that I wasn’t sopping wet.
Reddit is so important, but it’s very tricky. I got the most interaction while promoting myself on Reddit, but I also got laughed at the most for wanting people to pay for my goods. You have to be very careful that people don’t abuse your position as a sex worker. Reddit is where the true perverts live.
OnlyFans is only ok at the moment. OnlyFans is a newer site so there isn’t as much traffic, but I have a feeling that will soon change. Their aesthetic is much more pleasing than ManyVids and the interface is much more simple. It reminds me of when Tumblr was still cool. There’s a bio, a feed, and that’s it. It’s very simple.
The main difference between this site and ManyVids, is that it’s subscription based. You can offer monthly or lifetime subscriptions, but there isn’t more you get. All subscriptions get the same content, just longer or shorter access. If you were to choose a site, I would do either this one or ManyVids. Having both was pretty redundant. OnlyFans is also a great place to permanently put your premium snaps.
Patreon is interesting because they really support the ‘artistic’ side of adult entertainment. Honestly, if you are an erotic model, I would only use Patreon. They have the ‘lens’ which basically acts as a Snapchat and you can still post exclusive porn to paying customers. You can be so much more creative with your subscription tiers and usually the subscribers are a lot more professional.
Overall, the cons were pretty much expected and the pros were a happy surprise. I could have never expected this outcome. I seriously thought I would come away from all of this hating myself and thinking I was so disgusting. That couldn’t be further from the truth. I loved almost every minute and I would probably do again if I had a little bit more patience.
I have a whole new respect for these wonderful people. They are so supportive of each other. If you know a sex worker, give them all your love and support. Fuck what anyone says. They are doing what they love, period. Treat them like human beings and pay for your porn!
Good Clean Love Almost Naked Organic Personal Lubricant is only the third or fourth lubricant that I have tried in my life, but it is by far my favorite. It feels great, smells amazing, and tastes like candy. I will be going over my experience and some pros and (almost no) cons.
When I went to the store to look for my next lube, I had no idea what I was looking for. I thought I would just pick up some trusty AstroGlide, or something similar that I had tried in the past, but recently, my household has become more organic and natural, so when I saw the bright green tube, it definitely caught my eye. Low and behold, a clean sex product! I was thrilled. I read all the ingredients, looked up some reviews online, and threw it in my basket.
As soon as I got home, I opened it up. Now, I’m used to chemical lubes that are mostly clear, so when I squeezed some out to inspect, I was startled to see that it had a brownish hue. This is because of the organic, non-decolorized aloe. A lot of company take the color out, but Good Clean Love wants to make sure you are getting the most natural product you can.*
Besides the color, the first thing I noticed was the smell. It wasn’t too strong, but it was wonderfully sweet. I had never experienced that in a lube before (unless you count the various fake fruit flavored kinds that one usually receives as a gag gift). Me being curious I took a taste. It was amazing. Don’t judge me too hard. I knew, before eating it, that it was 100% edible, flavored with lemon and vanilla (and vegan/cruelty free…BONUS!).
After the first use, I was hooked. It felt great going on, while in use it was long lasting, and the sensitive tissue, in and around my vagina, wasn’t irritated! Whenever I would use chemical lubes, too much friction or penetration would almost cause my nether bits to start burning. That’s never a sexy feeling.
The only negative that I can give this product, is that if it’s exposed to air for too long, it has a tendency to dry out quickly. Not so fun when you’re giving your (penis having) partner and handy. Fortunately, there was a super easy fix: water. As soon as I got my hand wet, the lube was brought back to life with extra vigor. This make me believe that use in the shower will be extra fun. Also, this lube doesn’t wash off very easily with just water, so you could have loads of fun.
This was the first lube that I have ever wanted to use. Usually lube is just a necessity for toys or abnormally dry stints, but this one was going to be a staple in my everyday sex life. It made me feel like a woman down there, and an added benefit of this product is that it actually works with your body to naturally product lubrication. After one use, I noticed that I wasn’t dry as often as I was before.
I highly recommend this product! If you don’t want to buy the large amount to start, most sexual wellness shops have the sample/travel sizes available.
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*I was contacted by Good Clean Love and given the right information. Before, I couldn’t find any place that explained the color, but I knew xanthan gum has a gold hue, so I originally stated that being the reason. They sent me a very nice message and explained exactly why their product is a light brown color, and I have updated this review accordingly.